What To Do When Talking To A Group Of Women

This might sound scary, but now you have learned to talk to all kinds of strangers, so it really isn’t that much different from before. If you have a work setting that affords you the opportunity to engage in conversation with several women find a way to utilize this setting first.

Maybe there is a group of women who eat lunch together, try and join in, maybe another group likes to take a smoke break together, I’m not telling you to light up, but you can talk to them while they smoke, maybe another group of women head off to the restroom together….well, you better leave that group alone. No reason to get pepper spray in your eyes if you can avoid it and it’s probably frowned upon at work anyway.

The point is, start with something that is inside your comfort zone. Your work environment is simple, should be people you know at least a little bit, and easy for a practice. The next part though, what do you say when you get up to the group so you don’t come off looking like a stalker or a retard?

One of the easiest things to do is to compliment at least one woman on something she is wearing or her hair.  Very easy, and once done many times some of the other ladies will also compliment her. But don’t stop there; find a way to complement each member of the group on something different from the rest. Before you know it they will be complimenting you as well and everyone will feel great about themselves.

So now you have a complimenting love fest going on and you all feel great, how do you keep the conversation going, what should you talk about? Hopefully at least one of the women will fill you in on the discussion topic that was taking place before you arrived on the scene, but if not you can simply ask them.

If the conversation was about work, listen, add some feedback, and ask questions. Again, keep your questions open ended, that way they have to put some thought into their answers. Also, be sure to validate what anyone adds to the conversation, with compliments such as “Good thought” or “that’s an interesting view” so everyone feels included and like a valued contributor.

The reason you want to start in on the conversation of the group as soon as you enter the group is to avoid the anxiety of talking to women in a group. If you wait to talk your hands are going to sweat, your mouth will dry up and all the anxiety you have felt before will be right back with you and then you will have to start this process all over again.

That is why it is really important to immediately start speaking when you enter the group, don’t wait, and when you do approach the group of women for the first time, have an idea of what you want to say before you get there.  If you go in armed with a simple plan, you will have a much better chance at success.

Now that you have tested the waters at work and have learned how to approach a group of women and begin a conversation with them, it is time to venture out and take on something a bit more frightening. You need to go in public and start conversations with random women, especially if they are in a group, out in public.

Body Language Techniques In A Group Setting

Now that you have your posture down, and your hands under control how do you actually work your body language out in public, especially at a party.  It won’t be enough to just be able to stand correctly, you must understand the small movements to make and what they will mean.
If you are standing in a group with the woman you are interested in having a conversation with, make sure you don’t stand directly face to face with her.  Instead stand at a bit of an angle as if you are getting ready to go talk to someone else.  This helps add to the fact that you are not a threat to her, why would you be when you are about to go talk to someone else?

The next step, when in a group is to make sure you include the entire group.  In order to do this you must face away from the woman you are after and actually talk to other people, just make sure you don’t face directly to them either.  The best way to start this is to turn your back to the woman you are interested in to start with just to start including the group.  By doing this you can work your way around back to her after speaking with everyone.

A trick you can employ is the step back in move.  To accomplish this you will need to actually step as if you are leaving the group, make sure the conversations are over before doing this, and step away from the group, but step back as if you just noticed something.  Make sure you have noticed something nice, like her shoes or a bracelet that the woman you are after is wearing; then compliment her.

If the group is sitting at a table, you need to ask if you can sit with them, but state you will only be a minute because you need to go speak with someone else.  Follow this up with a compliment to the woman you are interested in, but don’t forget to include the group in any conversation you might have.  Excuse yourself after a couple of minutes and find someone else to go talk to, it’s very likely someone from the group may come back to you and invite you to rejoin them.

Why wouldn’t you just stand next to the table and talk to everyone?  If you do this, you will feel uncomfortable, and your body language will appear to be uncomfortable and awkward.  It is far better to join the group in their discussion at the same level as them.  By doing this, you are quickly inserting yourself into the group.

With your new appreciation for how important body language is and in possession of a voice that is perfect for anyone to listen to, what more do you need in order to gain the favor of a beautiful woman and have a conversation with her?  The answer is you still have a lot to learn, remember we agreed there are going to be seven keys to success and so far we have only covered two.