What To Say When You First Approach A Woman?

There really is nothing wrong with some idle daydreaming when you are trying to come up with some great conversations starters for the event or function you are about to attend.  We all have lost ourselves in our dreams at times, only to be brought out of them by the scalding hot water pouring over our hand or some other task we were involved in prior to getting lost in a dream.

What would it be to be able to walk up to a group of people and immediately know what to say and how to be comfortable?  This is the case only if everyone in the group is someone you know and are familiar with, but not always the case.  In fact, my job here is to try and prepare you for the party, function, or event you are about to attend so you can comfortably have a conversation with a certain lovely lady.

You are going to need to find different ways to get yourself lost in thought.  This means this particular combination is worthless without the previous one, so allow the two to work together for you.  Not unlike a cheesy flashback from a TV sitcom you can absolutely think and wonder what the situation you are going to find yourself in will present you with.

For example, what if the woman you want to talk to is spending all her time in one group of people.  Even with the best voice and greatest body language you are not ready to just enter the group and start talking, you need to have some great conversation starting lines ready.

In the case of a formal party, be ready to compliment the women of the group on what they are wearing, how they look, their hair, or even how nice they smell.  As far as any men in the group, the simple line of saying “you clean up nicely” works really well, if you know them, but if not, you can always compliment their suit, or watch, I would avoid smell and looks with the men as they might get the wrong idea and you may end up going home with one of them instead of a woman.

At a casual party, especially one as laid back as a backyard barbecue, how do you approach a group you don’t know that happens to include the woman you want to talk to?  You can start by saying how nice the day is, assuming the function is taking place outdoors on a sunny day.  Another such icebreaker would be to say how nice and relaxed everyone looks away from the stuffiness of work.

In either case, the formal or the casual, approaching a group with some great starting lines are going to be one of your guarantees to success, so don’t be afraid to dream a little and make a list of opening lines.    What do you do though if the woman is by herself or only with one other person such as another woman having a conversation?

When faced with the woman by herself you can walk up very casually to her and ask her what time it is using an excuse that you need to call someone a t a certain time or even just wondering what the time was.  In this case, don’t forget your voice and body language when you do this, this is the perfect opportunity to try and act as if you have to head over to someone else, take a step back and give her a special compliment about her shoes, bracelet, or dress.

If there are two women, look out, you can’t talk to one so how are you going to talk to two?  I’m kidding of course, in this case, be sure you pay some attention to each of them.  In fact if you want to play a little mind game you need to compliment the woman who you aren’t after first, by doing this you are making her special first and not your intended target.  Be careful though, this might backfire and the woman you want to spend time with might not pay any attention to you at all.

By now you should get the point you can dream up any scenario for what might take place, what the situation might be for the event and how you can and should approach differing situations.  Let your imagination run wild with this one, but make sure your write down any possible conversation starters you come up with, you can always reject the ones that seem to not work later.

Basics Of Phone Gaming

It happens time after time. You’re out at the bar with your buddies and across the room, you spot a knockout hot chick. You know that you want to end up in that woman’s bed, but you’ve also learned enough to know it’s not only stupid, but downright creepy to walk up to her and tell her you’d like to sleep with her.

That’s moving way too fast for a woman. So, you have to follow a few unspoken dating rules. Topping off these rules is that when you want to get to know a woman – even if to you that purpose is just to get into her bed – you have to ask her for her phone number.

Most women will gladly scribble down their number on a napkin or write it down for you and hand it over. This is where it can get really confusing for a guy. Hey, she gave you her number.

Score for you, right? With your ego swelling up a bit, you show your buddies that the hot chick gave you her number. Now here comes the confusing part. Just because she gave you her number doesn’t mean a thing when it comes to you getting laid.

That’s not how it works. You might be one of the guys who got a woman’s number and she even suggested that you call her. Surely that means you’re in, right?

Wrong. Don’t take that to heart either. You might have even gotten past that first phone call to an actual date. You had a nice dinner, took in a movie, had some lively conversation and got to kiss her goodnight.

When you think about how that went, you just know that she’s a sure thing and that if you play your cards right, she’s going to end up putting out for you. If you think that, you’re going to be in for a rude surprise.

Remember how quickly a woman’s mind can change? How she’s led by her emotions? Guys, that means that just because you got a foot in the door, it doesn’t mean you’re going to get to keep it there.

That door can and has slammed in the face of many a man. You might be scratching your head, wondering what went wrong, what more you could have done.

Well, there is more that you can do like what’s taught in many dating books today but what you need to know right now is that you have a shot to make what you want to happen occur.

>Opportunity For Emotional Chemistry

When a woman gives you her phone number, she’s made the decision right there that she feels something. She might not even be able to completely define it. She just knows it’s there.

Now men, because of their logical brain, the one that they process every aspect of life with, including women, once we have that number, we plan our course of action which means conquer.

That’s a man’s natural drive. With a woman, conquer means win her affection and get into her bed. Some guys plan what they’re going to say, what avenue they’ll take to get her to give it up.

It’s their battle plan. Other men just sort of wing it. Both can backfire without any warning at all. Because while men are busy planning or not planning, what she felt for the man at that first interaction is dissipating faster than dew on grass after the sun rises.

This is because although a woman does have a slow meter when it comes to getting it in gear for sex, they don’t when it comes to beginning an interaction with a guy.

When she first meets a guy, that slow motor changes. It’s now revved up and she’s ready to be amazed by you because this is her emotional brain guiding her reactions.

Like it or not, her emotional side hungers for the stuff that chick flicks all tout. She’s looking for that fairy tale experience. Something fantastic, wonderful, something so great that she can’t stop thinking about or talking about with her friends.

This is natural for a woman to feel this way. She wants Prince Charming and not Mr. Get-Me-Laid. When you don’t deliver that amazing feeling she’s looking for, something starts to happen inside a woman’s emotional chemistry.

She begins to think about that interaction she had with you. She figures, because she’s disappointed and her motor was running while yours was parked, that she was completely wrong about you and that’s all it was.

A mistake. So the next thing you know, she’s changed her mind. When she changes her mind, she’s decided that any more interaction will be as just friends. You will not get a date.

You will not get a kiss. You sure as hell won’t get laid. Because you really, really want to sleep with this hot, amazing woman, you start making the mistakes that put the nail in the coffin of that opportunity.

Frame Your Intentions To Go Under The Radar

It is extremely important you make your intentions clear to any woman, especially in a social setting with everyone dressed up and looking their best; you don’t want to come on too strong. Remember you are a stranger to this woman; she is going to have her guard up and think your entire intention in meeting her is to get her into bed as quickly as possible, so it really is important you put her worries to rest.

Because you have your goofy, crazy, or just funny prop with you at the party, hopefully this might help to break the ice and get your conversation started, but until you actually let her know your intentions are honorable, she will not trust your motives at all. There are a few ways to make this an easy part of your conversation with her and ease her worries.

Again, this is going to depend on the situation, if it’s a party with lots of dancing and you notice she is sitting by herself while most people are dancing, you can simply introduce yourself and ask her to dance. Don’t start by asking during a slow song, this screams “I want to take you to bed” rather, pick something with a fast beat and maybe even a group dance, such as a line dance.

By asking during one of these faster songs, and dancing as a group, you allow her the comfort of being with other people and not just you on the dance floor. This gives her the idea that your intentions are innocent enough, and shows her how much fun you can be, as if she wasn’t convinced of this with your goofy prop.

On the other hand, if the party is more of a stand around, or sit around party, one way to make sure she thinks your intentions are not to take her to bed for the night of her life, you have to make sure you include more than just her in your conversation. You will have to ease into conversation, include others around you, and keep your body language neutral so she doesn’t put her guard up.

Another  trick to make her think your intentions are honorable if she is not sitting or standing in any type of group will be to keep the conversation very light, friendly and not too deep. Periodically get up and excuse yourself to talk to other people, this allows her to think you are not just giving her all your attention and puts her more at ease.

If all else fails, you can simply come out and tell her as part of your conversation, you have no intention of trying to take her to bed. The reality is you saw her at another party and have wanted to meet her ever since. This is both flattering to her and shows her you have a shy side, which many women find attractive in a man.

Now you have planned your approach, you have the correct wardrobe, and you have visited the shopping center and met so many strangers that you have been invited to join a mall walking group, what else do you need to do? Now you need to learn how to play the game. This is the icing on the cake for you and your approach, allowing you to separate yourself from the rest of the hungry wolves at the party.