This sounds easy to some and not so much to others. Have you ever noticed in some groups you have people who don’t shut up and others who barely talk? You would think the quiet ones are full of social anxiety, but in reality they both are anxious about the social setting.
The person who can’t shut up is in fear that if they were to stop talking they wouldn’t know what to do, they haven’t figured out their own listening skills to ensure others can contribute to the conversation equally. On the other hand the quiet person has the opposite problem; they aren’t very sure of how to add to the conversation so they sit back quietly and listen. We want to be somewhere in between. With this said, our first exercise is simply to talk to people. I don’t care who, just get out there and talk to them, introduce yourself, say “Hi” and let the world know who you are. It’s really simple once you get the hang of it, but you have to actually put yourself out there and get the conversation started so people can talk back with you.
Unsure where to start? Let me get you started. Let’s say you need to go to the bank today, no doubt you are going to have to see a bank teller who is going to ask you about your account and what your business is, that’s all fine and good, you’ve done that a thousand times, but how about an actual conversation with the bank teller, especially if she’s a woman.