If you’re like a lot of guys, it’s a complete mystery to you how a woman decides who she’s attracted to. You’ve seen two guys that seemed about the same to you approach women. One gets shot down while the other gets the girl, and you can’t see what made the difference.
On the one hand, there are some mysterious forces going on here. Pheromones, those invisible chemicals that send messages we can’t control, make a difference in which man is attractive to which woman. You also can’t control the fact that you might look like her jerk of an ex-boyfriend or your voice reminds her of the high school math teacher she hated. These things happen, and there’s nothing you can do about them besides move on.
On the other hand, there are a lot of factors under your control in the attraction equation. If you get those factors right, she’ll find you hard to resist. If you get them wrong, she won’t give you the time of day.
Here’s what to avoid when trying to attract a woman, and what to do instead: