At a friend’s party, it’s crowded, you see a lady across the room that you would really like to talk to, get to know better, or even be able to date. She’s a ten, having a great time, laughing, joking, drinking and flirting, while you sit, a wallflower with sweaty palms, uncomfortable, lacking confidence, and completely unsure how to even approach such a beauty; another opportunity wasted.
If any of this describes you or any experience you have ever had, don’t be alarmed. Don’t go off thinking there is no way you will ever be able to go out with a woman as beautiful, smart, funny, or as popular as the one I just described to you, because there is no reason you can’t date a woman who is a ten in both looks and personality, but you will have to learn what you need to do.
As with anything at all in life, the keys to success are going to be pretty simple. First of all you have to prepare for the task ahead. Asking a woman out, or even beginning a conversation with one, especially one that makes your heart beat faster and the blood leave your brain, is almost as difficult as learning open heart surgery, but it doesn’t have to be.
Second on the list, once you are prepared to approach the lovely lady will be to have some confidence. Not only do you have to be confident in yourself, but also confident in the fact she is another person, just as vulnerable and self-conscious as you are. With that in mind you might stand a fighting chance against the queen of all beasts, the one thing that has always had men on their heels; a woman.
Once you have gotten your preparation done, and gained the confidence to actually approach your intended target, you will need to know how to make that approach. You can’t go in there caveman style and beat her over the head with a club and drag her away by her hair. But you also can’t be meek and mild as a church mouse that never gets seen, so we will have to discuss at length how you need to approach the young beauty that has caught your eye.
The last part is how you are going to play the game. Which is exactly what we have going on here isn’t it. Which one of you will get the upper hand over the other in this game of attraction that hopefully will have two winner, the two of you because if you both don’t win, then you lose. It really is that simple, but you have to know the rules and how to actually play to have a chance.
That will be our journey, in a nutshell, preparation, confidence, approach, and playing the game; how much simpler can I make it for you? It sounds simple, just like a Rubik’s Cube looks like a simple toy, but in reality, this can be the most complex game you have ever played, but you are going to love or hate every minute of it as you try to win the hand of the woman who caught your eye.