1) The Bus Ride
There are tons of locations to chose from, but many people overlook the opportunities presented to them, because they are too busy worrying about the destination at that moment and forget to enjoy the journey.
So to set the stage for our first few locations; let’s say you are a busy professional in a large city and use public transportation most days for commuting either for work, or for errands.
How often do you notice the people on the bus with you?
Of course you would notice if a woman came onto the bus whom you were instantly attracted to, at least I hope so. If not, you might need more than this book to help you.
Anyway, how do you approach her on the bus? What will you say? What if you try to talk to her and words just won’t come out?
Slow down…too many worries. Here is an approach that will help get things started.
First, go sit down next to her, or if there isn’t much room and you are sitting, offer her your seat while you stand in close proximity. This shows a sense of being which is always great.
Ok, so now you have her close to you that you want to engage and possibly complete your mission with, but…
…what to say?
How about asking her for directions somewhere in town? Simple. Just ask where a particular restaurant is, or maybe a nearby business, this will show you are “not afraid to ask directions” an old male cliché, and shows a small sense of vulnerability.
Another possibility would be to notice what she is wearing and ask where she may have gotten it, be sure to compliment her on the item first. Both these approaches are simply conversation starters, from there you need to keep the conversation going with her in order to complete you mission before the bus ride is over.
2) Museum or Gallery
How about an art museum or a gallery? This would be a fantastic opportunity to engage a woman whom you find attractive. First of all, most people who attend openings at art museums and galleries will be well dressed and on their best behavior, a good chance for you to pull out your inner James Bond and put him on the outside. Or, if just visiting as a casual visit, they are usually somewhat quiet places where a conversation can easily be had without having to shout.
Either way one of the easiest approaches to getting a woman’s attention in this setting would be to share an opinion on a piece of art. Make sure you start off by asking her opinion and validate her opinion if you agree, or if not, politely have a good back and forth conversation about the piece of art.
It helps if you know a bit of something about the artist, or the type of work in the gallery, but it is not a must. This approach could actually lead to an entire afternoon of an art tour with the woman of your interest; amazingly you would have completed your mission just by approaching and sharing an opinion.
3) Taking a Class
Another such venue for our bus to drop you off would be a class, especially one that would have an interest for both men and women, such as cooking, dance, writing, or a language class. Please don’t take a class to meet women, that won’t end well because if you are taking a class you should be genuinely interested in the subject matter of the class first. However, if you signed up for the class because you are interested, and find there is a woman in the class you want to get to know better here are some great ideas to approach her.
First, try and situate your seat so you are next to her in some way, obviously this will make having a conversation that much easier. During the class ask her opinion on some topics, or how to complete some of the class work. Share opinions on the topics of discussion and make sure you compliment her on her opinions and work. Surely you will at least make a friend in the class this way and this should make it easier to find yourself able to complete your mission.
4) The Gym
Even though there has been a movement toward women’s gyms and heightened awareness against men who frequent gyms just to hit on women, this is still a good place to find a date and make a connection. Similar to the organic food store, if she is at the gym, she has exhibited some quality you find valuable, trying to keep fit or get into shape, so there is nothing wrong with harmless conversation.
How do you approach a woman at the gym and not seem like one of the above mentioned men who are only there to hit on a woman and not make an actual connection? It’s pretty simple really, especially if you are new to the gym; ask for advice.
If you see a piece of equipment you want to use, and notice she is either using it or has just finished with it, ask her how to use it. Most likely she will either demonstrate it for you, giving you an opportunity to pay her a compliment on her form or stamina, or she will have you get on the equipment and walk you through it. If she has you on the equipment you can of course compliment her instruction.
The gym approach might take a few visits before you are able to complete your mission, but the work is well worth it, and you can buff up or get your Arnold on while trying to gain that first date. You can ask questions about equipment, or workout routines, or anything else at the gym, but keep in mind not to be so intrusive so she can complete her workout.
After a few visits, and receiving her advice, you should be able to exchange phone numbers or ask her out on a date, thus completing your mission. If nothing else at least you will be getting some hopefully valuable workout tips from her and getting into better shape yourself.
5) Yoga Class
Similar to the gym, but thankfully a class setting, you can make a great connection with a woman in yoga class. One advantage for you is the fact that a class starts at a specific time each week so you already know when the rest of the class should arrive to workout. Another great item to point out is your skill level is not important here either; whether a beginner or expert you can take the class and not look out of place.
You will have to take more than one class in order to strike any kind of connection, but being in a class for the duration gives you an opportunity to have a conversation throughout that time. After spotting your intended target, the first thing you need to do is get to the next class early so you can get your choice of spots to workout, which in this case needs to be right next to her.
After you have your spot on the floor, start up a conversation regarding the previous class, the routine, or advice on particular parts of the class. Make sure you compliment her on her form and maybe even make a self-deprecating comment about your own lack of flexibility or stamina. Surely after a nice conversation you will have set up a date, possibly for after class to get some coffee or a quick bite to eat.
By now I’m sure you are thinking, “Is this ride over yet?” or “My head is spinning can I get off the bus yet?” Not just yet, my job is to help you complete your mission of securing a first date, and we have a few more places to explore so sit back and enjoy the rest of the ride.
6) Dog Park
The dog park can be a fantastic place to meet a nice woman. Who doesn’t love a dog? At least you know if she is there with her dog, she is an animal lover like you, or at least a dog lover. Like I have advised with other scenarios, have an invested interest, please don’t go to the dog park without your own dog. You will also look awkward and a bit silly if you bring a friend’s dog, so make sure it is your own.
If you fit the right mold above, a dog owner, of an actual dog, please not a stuffed or toy dog, then by all means bring the dog to the dog park and see what happens. If you see a woman there who you want to meet, try and have your dog playing near her and her dog, maybe even with her dog.
The ice breaking conversation starter in this case is super simple; introduce yourself then ask her what breed her dog is. If it’s obvious what the breed is, ask anyway, sometimes there are interesting mixes that are not so obvious. You also should ask the dog’s name and start to share information about your dog. Hopefully this will lead to some conversation regarding what it’s like being a dog parent, and some of the fun things they each do.
You can make a date to meet again at the dog park and trade phone numbers. Mission accomplished; how simple was that one? Make sure you give your dog a treat when you get home for being probably the best wingman a guy could ever ask for.
Meeting a woman at church is usually pretty easy, but you need to be genuinely interested in being at church and sharing your beliefs and sometimes your personal story. These are both really great things to share, and many women like to know more about a man before they agree to any kind of date, so that part sort of gets the ball rolling for you. However, be real; don’t go for the reason of just meeting women.
If you have been a regular at a church, or even just starting to go, one way to meet women and other people at the church is by getting involved in different activities the church puts on. If you spot a woman you are interested in, you can ask her what activities she participates in and what she likes about them, especially if the church is having a sign up weekend.
It should be obvious you will have to put in some time to get a first date and some continued time at the church in order to keep a relationship going, however if she is there and you enjoy each other’s company that should really be the easy part.
8) The Laundromat
One location you may have never thought of but can be a great place to get a nice conversation going is a laundromat. Think about the situation, if you are doing laundry at the laundromat, you are kind of trapped there while your clothes are either washing or drying. Lots of people will bring a book or a computer to work on while there; instant conversation item, and what better way to pass the time than to have someone nice, interesting, and engaging to talk to while you wait.
If you happen to see a woman of interest at the laundromat, under no circumstances do you approach her while she is handling her clothes. This can be embarrassing for both of you and make you look more like a stalker than a genuinely interested party. However, while the clothes are in the machines is the perfect time to approach her and start a conversation. Like I said in the last paragraph, she will probably have a book or computer, and you can approach her much like you would have in the coffee shop.
The great thing about this situation is she will probably welcome some conversation, because she is “trapped” at the laundromat while her clothes are washing and drying. The simple approach in the laundromat would be to ask for some help, either with what soap to use, when to put in fabric softener, anything related to laundry, and hopefully she will assist you or at least offer some advice. Once the conversation gets started; keep it going you both will be there a while together. Be sure to leave a phone number with her and set that first date; boom, mission accomplished, way to go.
Hey, we have a scene that doesn’t require our bus to drop us off; why not meet interesting and fascinating women in your own neighbourhood? Close proximity can absolutely be your friend in this case as she will be easier for your to see on a regular basis, so the approach is pretty simple here.
If she lives very nearby, or in your building, and you have maybe had a few conversations with her during the time the two of you have lived near each other, one option would be to ask her a favor while you are traveling. Ask if she would mind helping with your dog, or collecting your mail, or even just keeping an eye on your place while you are gone. She would be doing you a huge favor, and you can take this opportunity to make sure she knows this before you head out on your trip. You will actually have to go on a trip of some sort, which could be a great conversation topic as well.
Once you have arrived back from your trip, offer to pay her, mostly she may decline, but at least offer to take her out to dinner as a payment for taking care of your place while you were gone. Make sure you don’t set this as a date; the actual first date should be made while on this dinner.
Another approach with your attractive female neighbor is to invite her to a neighbourhood party you are throwing. Make sure you invite all your neighbors as well, and while at the party be sure to get to know lots of your neighbors while paying her special attention. Be sure not to ignore your other guests, be an excellent host, but be sure to get her to agree to a date before the evening is over.
The Ride is Over; or Just Beginning
Our mission impossible bus ride of everyday destinations has finally come to an end, sorry to kick you off so soon, but I have a date. Do you have a date? Do you see how easy this can become mission possible for you? Hopefully after reading and applying some of the suggestions contained here, if not a date, at least hopefully I have opened your eyes to the possibilities around you every day. Take advantage of the opportunities when they present themselves and you too will find yourself mission complete.