How Staring With Your Eyes Can Make Or Break Your Game

When a person shows and interest in you what do they do? Do they sit and stare at you and make you uncomfortable wondering if you have something stuck in your teeth or on your clothes? In fact staring is obviously one way to show interest in another person, but really it’s one of the worst ways you could.

If you sit too long anywhere and stare at someone, sooner or later you might have to have conversation with the boys in blue as to why you seem to be stalking someone. That doesn’t make for a very nice first impression at all.  It would be much better for you to learn the best ways to show interest in a person, and there are quite a few.

Our lovely friends, the “dating doctors” once again might tell you to look at the woman you are interested in and eventually she is going to look back. This much might be true, but what sort of vibe are you putting off by doing this and what sort of feeling are you creating in her?

Try an experiment, go to a café and just stare at people until they leave. If they notice you are staring you probably will see them squirm, look uncomfortable, and even inspect themselves to try and figure out what you are staring at. There is also a chance some people might confront you, or ask the café manager to do so. All of these reactions are unpleasant and not way we are aiming for when we want to spend time and attract a woman.

We are going to cover five ways to show a woman you are interested in them during this next section of the booklet, and hopefully help you see what is appropriate and what is not. These five different ways of expressing interest are: hide, tease, show, touch and look. Each one has its own merits and value and will be useful to you going forward.

Do you see that lovely looking woman over by the food court, well, stop staring at her and start reading how best to show your interest before she has you removed from the shopping center.

Peek A Boo

I know, this is a game we play with infants hiding behind our hands and then showing them our face and saying playfully “peek a boo” expecting them to giggle with delight. It might be a bit juvenile for a men’s advice and dating booklet, but bring the point across. The first part of showing a woman you are interested in her is to hide.

Even as I wrote that line I said to myself, “that sounds stupid” so I’m not surprised if you feel the same way, but give it a chance and let me show you what I’m talking about. What we are discussing during this section is hiding the fact that you are interested in her. What you really are trying to do is get her to be interested in you and there are a few ways to accomplish this.

Of course what you need to understand first of all is getting control of your body language. If you are so off the charts by waving your hands around and can’t keep a straight face, that will be where you need to work first, not try simply hiding your interest. However, if you have pretty good control of your body, facial expressions, and especially those crazy hands of yours, keep on reading and see what is in store for you.

You are going to need a full length mirror and to perform some practice on your own in order to perfect the body language you need in order to send off the right message with your body. Remember, we actually communicate more with our face and body than we do with the words we speak so this will be key to send the right message.

You will want to practice standing with your body facing away from another person. In this case you don’t need to employ the help of your friends or relatives, but just pretend another person is there and stand so that you never actually face them directly at all. You should also pretend to have a conversation with someone else and only address the person you are trying to not face directly when they are speaking.

When you go to the club, or a party, this is exactly what you are going to do, when you are in a group with a woman you feel attracted to. Make sure you never directly face her at all, the more of your back she sees the better. When she does speak, you can respond and turn a little toward her, but turn back away fairly quickly.
The message you are trying to give off by having your body away from her is that you are not interested in her, or she is not your type. In fact, if she confronts you about why you aren’t facing her, go ahead and tell her directly she isn’t your type. This might just get her interest level in you raised up very quickly, especially if she is a really stunning woman.

Once you have successfully given off the message that she isn’t your type, you are also telling her, with your body language that you can do better than her. Nothing makes a woman gain interest faster than thinking there is another woman who can gain a man’s attention better than she can. She will very likely start to show an interest in you instead of you having to pursue her as much and in doing so you will have turned the table on her to where she is actually chasing you.

If you now have this stunningly beautiful woman now chasing you and wanting to talk to you what is your best course of action at this point? Do you hide some more, do you leave the party altogether, or do you actually allow her to catch you? This is the easiest one of all, you let her catch you.

Once you let her catch you and start a conversation, you can employ the methods from the earlier sections to take her somewhere private and have a nice long meaningful “get to know you” conversation that hopefully will end in a kiss.

A Moment Will Arrive Where You Have To Reveal Your True Self

I do not mean for your to take off your clothes, run around in your birthday suit and let the world see how well equipped you are. I’m pretty certain if you did this the men with the wonderful white jackets that make you hug yourself would show up, and then this booklet is useless to you anyway.

No, in fact what I do mean by revealing yourself is our next section of showing interest and that is to show. Now, instead of just teasing and flirting, or trying to hide and ignore her, you are actually going to give this woman some much deserved attention.

What you are going to do when showing her some attention is to give her a compliment, on what she said, laugh at her jokes, or simply state a positive opinion on her end of the conversation. What you do when you give her these compliments is show her that you aren’t such a bad guy after all.

Once again, our “dating doctors” won’t even touch this subject at all. The reason for that is they don’t think you should ever tease or flirt with a woman. Apparently women are to be on a pedestal and adored, not treated like people. Who wants that? Not one single woman I have ever known said they would like this kind of treatment all the time, so don’t do it.

Instead, after you have given few good teases give her a compliment or two. Say things like “that’s a great point, you might be worth my time after all” or “that was really funny, I guess you aren’t that bad”. By setting her up with these compliments, she will start to seek your approval, or at the very least be interested in your response to her comments and stories.

As long as you mix it up really well, many women will enjoy a conversation where they get teased and complimented, and are able to give both back. There is nothing wrong with, and it actually can be a bit refreshing for a woman to be able to act a bit less like a lady for a while, let her hair down, and have some fun back and forth conversation.

If you can get into this situation, how do you think the both of you are going to react? In your case, we already know you are attracted to her, but now she is obviously interested in you and your opinion of what she has to say, so bravo to you, you have found a way to win over her attention by treating her like an equal, and not like a porcelain doll that needs to be set on the shelf.

Take Note

The advice in the last three sections really does need to go hand in hand. I would suggest to anyone who employs this advice to practice with friends and family before going out to a club or party. The likelihood of you coming home and needing to ice something down is much greater if you haven’t practiced first.

I also know the steps and ideas seem a bit risky, but when was anything in life that was worth going after not at least a bit of a risk. In order to have some actual success when going to parties and to the clubs you have to be willing to be vulnerable, clever, and not mind a little rejection.

At the end of the day, the most important part of the advice I can give you regarding the hide, tease, show technique is to remember to read the body language and ensure what you are doing actually feels right. You don’t want to throw a tease at a woman who just told her story to you about a close relative dying, that wouldn’t be appropriate at all.

By that same token, you would not want to be so brutal with hiding from her that she loses complete interest in you because maybe now she thinks you are a jerk, it is a fine line that you must walk in order to be successful with this technique. Because I know this is a fine line, and isn’t 100% successful I suggest the practice sessions with friends and family. If you have a good looking woman friend or relative to help you practice, that’s even better for you to ensure you will be prepared to use this technique successfully.

Just remember, have fun; allow the woman to show you some attention and flirt with you as much as you do with her, and read the body language she gives off to make sure what you are doing is appropriate for the situation you are in. Even if you aren’t successful, maybe you will at least avoid the frozen vegetable on the old twig and berries at the end of the night.