Preparation Is Essential Whether You Are A Newbie Or Dating God

Preparation in any facet of our lives is really the key to success. Great athletes are born with talent and gifts, but most work tirelessly long hours in a gym or on the practice field to hone their skills so when game day arrives, they can perform at their very best. The same goes for businessmen, they have to work for years, trial and error, deals that work and don’t work to learn what the best approach is so they can get the big deals and make more money.

Just as the athlete isn’t born great, and the businessman isn’t born successful, neither is anyone else just born ready for any part of their lives. We all must work at every part of life in order to find the success or dream we are trying to accomplish. In the case of our subject today, that is simply winning the favor and desire of a beautiful woman.

As the old saying goes “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”, but the reality is there are some people who simply stand out with physical beauty and confidence in their appearance and personality more than others. Those people are a small minority of the world and believe me, they have serious insecurities just the same as you and I do.

It would amaze many people to find out how many super models think they are fat, or look at their face and don’t see a perfect symmetry the modeling agency hired them for. Or on the other hand, review the statistics of Hollywood stars that kill themselves, or go on depression riddled binges of alcohol and drugs. Here are highly successful people, acting out their insecurities.

I digress however, the point is we are all human and all have a need for attention from someone we are attracted to. It doesn’t always have to be a physical attraction, you may have many friends who you hang out with and go places, you are attracted to them by a common bond, whether it is similar interests or competition, and you share time because of that attraction.

This is what we are after in this booklet. But first, the preparation, how do you prepare yourself to go back to that party and actually walk up to the girl who is an absolute ten and start a conversation? That is where it has to begin, with a conversation. Unless you are one who enjoys blind dates, most don’t, you will not be going to a woman asking her to have your babies expecting any type of positive reaction.

How do we get you prepared to win over that gorgeous woman who you want to get to know much better?

Simple Techniques To Improve Your Conversational Voice

Now that we know there is a problem with how you speak, and you have identified, and you understand how important it is for you to have a pleasant voice with good rhythm and tone showing confidence in your words and yourself, how do you actually achieve this goal? What are the best steps to correcting a voice problem?

This again sounds pretty easy, but you will have to catch yourself both doing it right, and doing it wrong. If you have the help of friends and family, that can be easy to pick up on because you need to ask them to tell you when you slip up. Almost like an intervention for a substance abuse, your friends will be there for you, but how are you going to take it when they tell you what you did wrong?

In order to take the criticism the best, you will have to constantly be mindful the friends and family are there to help you, not to hurt you. If they truly are your friends, they want to see you succeed in having a conversation with a woman as much as you do, especially if they want you to move out of their apartment or home and venture out on your own.

A good game to play with yourself might be to score each day. Keep a chart and every day keep a total of how many times that day someone corrected your speech and expect this number to go down as you work on your voice and how it comes off to others. Be sure to reward yourself for an excellent performance with a treat or drink, but if you are having a bad day, take a deep breath and try and make the rest of the day a good one so your score doesn’t get too high.

This game obviously is a lot like the sport of golf; the lowest score wins, and eventually if you are able to conquer your fears and become someone with a pleasant and appealing voice you will win, so keep at it until you get the score you are looking for which is of course zero.

If you aren’t using the aid of friends and family, that is fine, but the game is a bit more involved. Keep working your recorder until the buttons fall off and it simply says it’s had enough of listening to your mindless babble as you try and improve your voice. What you will need to do in this case is listen and find where you slipped up each day.

Just like the example above you should be able to keep a score for yourself for the day, but you can add to the score how many times during the day did you catch yourself without listening to the recording. This actually can be more beneficial than just having your friends and family henpecking you to death because if you catch yourself reverting back to your old habits of speech you are on a road to self-discovery and self-correction; this is a fantastic step to take.

Now that you have your games set up and are ready to play what do you do to fix your voice problems? All you have to do is try and do the opposite of what your problem is.  If you know you speak to slowly, try and get your words out more quickly. One way to do this is to enter the conversation with your words and answers already in mind, which will show you are prepared anyway.

If you find your issue is you speak way too fast, try and just slow down, take a few more breaths in between sentences; remember the period at the end of a sentence is a stopping point, and a comma is a pause. Those are rules not just for writing, but for speaking as well, so just slow down.

If the volume of your voice was the issue, again just work on doing the opposite of what you have already been doing. If you speak way too softly, it’s time to get louder; which can be difficult at times. The volume increase needs to come from you diaphragm, below your rib cage, and come out with confidence.

One way to do this is to stand in front of a full length mirror and yell at yourself. Please do this alone because if you do this with someone watching they might call the local loony bin and have you taken away in the friendly white coat that makes you hug yourself.  By standing in the mirror and yelling, notice where the voice comes from.

If you are getting your voice from your diaphragm, you will see and obvious rise in your chest, but if it all comes from your throat you won’t see this rise at all.  In fact after a while of yelling that only comes from you throat you will start to get hoarse and have to start over after your vocal chords heal.

Once you have figured out how to get your voice a bit louder, go out and practice it on other people. You will probably see an amazing change in how people respond to you now that you have gotten your voice a bit louder.

Last, if the problem is you are too loud, soften your voice. Use your throat more for speaking than your diaphragm, that way you don’t blow away the room, especially if the room consists of one person who is seated across the table from you.

The goal when working on your voice is to eventually have a nice even tone voice that can be heard from up to five meters away, but really no more than that.  Using some of these exercises you will be able to get your voice under control which will have a significant impact on how people accept and speak with you, especially women.

What Does Women Don’t Want?

I hate to tell you this, because you might have always thought something was true – ever since you hit puberty. This belief is made up of four lies. Not that this is your fault for believing any of these lies because the media hypes it in almost every magazine that you’ll see.

This lie is also taught in movies, and in television shows. Since seeing is believing, the majority of men have fallen for it and in turn have cut their chances of closing the deal with the hot women they want.

The first thing that women don’t require is a man with money. You’ll see this lie almost everywhere you turn. There’s an unspoken belief that money equals success with women.

While money certainly does equal a certain amount of financial success, it doesn’t translate into getting laid as much as you want with as many different women as you’d like to sleep with.

Surprisingly, despite all of the gold-digger jokes, the majority of women – especially the ones that are toned, tanned and stacked, don’t care about money. The emotional part of their brain does not link money and sex.

Before you roll your eyes and think, “Yeah, right…” consider how many financial disasters get hot women. There all sorts of guys who don’t dress well who you see picking up girls all the time. They have something you haven’t found yet – but it’s not a fat wallet.

The second thing that women don’t require are men that are muscled up and beefy looking. Check out any blockbuster film and you’ll see this lie being presented time and time again.

If you want that hot women, you have to step it up at the gym. You have to have the body of a superhero – that’s what these lies tell the average guy. And that’s all it is.

A lie.

The average man can beat out the muscle man every time if he just knows the system that works to make a woman want him rather than that muscular guy. And if you doubt that it’s a lie, think about the scrawny guys you see dating hot ladies. Oh, you probably assumed (wrongly) that they must be rich instead. Nope!

With all of the advertisements to “fix” this next thing women don’t require, you’d think that surely the mass market knows a woman’s mind. But this is a lie, too. This is an area where the media is playing into a man’s insecurity over this issue.

It’s not an issue for women when it comes to wanting to have sex with you. That belief is about hair. You might have believed for years that women want men with a full head of hair.

You believed that men who are losing their hair or going bald don’t have a chance with the women they want to sleep with. But you’ve bought into that line long enough.

The truth is that women think bald is sexy. They like men with the chrome dome. Take a look at men with bald heads and see just who they have hanging on their arms and you’ll see that baldness has nothing to do with attracting a woman.

In fact, some studies have shown that if you are balding or bald, your chances of getting sex are better than those of a man with a full head of hair. It can give you a real badass, strong look if you run with it!

The fourth lie you might have bought into has to deal with the way that a man looks. Again, this is a lie that the media has latched onto and run with – that in order to have women, you have to look a certain way.

You need to be handsome for a woman to want you – that is one of the biggest lies that’s out there. Ever see a hot woman with a guy that looks like he was smacked in the face with a double dose of ugly?

That right there is your proof that woman don’t choose the handsome man any more than they do the man who’s not that good looking. So then what’s going on with you?

Why is it that women aren’t flocking to you and giving it up? The reason is because you’re making the same mistakes that a lot of men who aren’t getting laid are making.