Getting That Involuntary Response For Women

More than relaxing on a boat in the middle of a lake fishing, and more than watching sports, men want to get laid. If that sounds like you, it means you’re a normal guy.

But wanting something and getting it are two different matters. Just because you want something is no guarantee that you’ll get it – unless you know the techniques that can help you achieve your goal of getting that hot chick and getting laid.

If you check out classic dating courses, you’ll see the techniques that you can learn to become a highly sought after man around town. You have to understand what you’ve been doing wrong and what you need to do in order to get it right.

First, look at how women react when it comes to the steps that lead up to her making up her mind on whether she’s putting out or not.

The Involuntary Response

Women don’t just have sex with you because you want to. That’s one of the biggest lies that you’ll ever believe. In fact, women have a healthy lust factor the same way that men do.

The difference with women, though, is found in the way that the connection is approached. You have to make that connection first and believe it or not, that connection isn’t a physical one.

You need to know how you can create a connection with a woman if you want to get into her pants. This connection is not physical or visual. This connection is an involuntary one from her.

With an involuntary response, that means that you have to know how to trip a response in her that’s chemical based. Inside her emotional brain, a woman has a chemical response when it comes to the opposite sex.

This chemical response is your golden ticket to sex, but most men don’t know about this response. This response is everything that’s important because it’s this response that you can use that will cause you to get laid by the hottest girls around.

If you think that she doesn’t have the same deep drive as a man, you’d be wrong. She can be just as driven by desire as a man can – but not too many men grasp this because they’ve never been taught.

Tapping into this chemical response leads you to a well of want in a woman. When you tap into that chemical response, a woman loses the ability to not want you back in return.

She won’t be able to help herself because her brain is throwing out all sorts of responses that lead her straight to you. In fact, she’ll be so hot for you that she’ll be the one doing the chasing and you’ll end up having to juggle your sex calendar so that you can fit all the women you’ll have into the lineup.

Best of all about this chemical response in her brain is that it makes her a sure thing regardless of you. You don’t have a thing to do with it. That means no rejection, and no going home unfulfilled.

When you unleash this chemical response in a woman, nothing about you will matter to tip the scales unfavorably. That means that you don’t have to be a good looking guy.

You don’t have to have a fat bank account. You don’t even have to be her type. In fact, you can bring zero to the table and you’re still going to end up causing her to want to spread those formerly off limits legs just for you.

2 Simple Ways To Frame Women As Just A Pretty Face

As strange as it may sound sometimes the best approach is one that shows a woman she is just another pretty face.  We all want to be desirable and have the opposite sex swooning at our feet and for beautiful women that happens a lot. What happens when just the opposite happens, does she lose her mind, will she have problems coping with the idea someone might not worship her?

Amazingly enough, the answer to these questions is yes this type of behavior will absolutely drive her crazy, almost crazy enough to confront whoever is ignoring her and have her shouting “Look at me”  in an embarrassing way. With that in mind, the next question is simply how do we accomplish this feat and how will we know when we have gone too far?

Talk to the Hand

It might be a bit childish to actually put your hand up in front of someone’s face and tell them to talk to it, but you get the idea.  The idea here is simply to ignore her and show no interest in anything she has said. If she is in a group, validate then entire group except her.

At first glance this might sound a bit harsh or mean spirited, but remember it is all in how you play this game in order to get the girl to be interested in you at all. What we are trying to accomplish is having her actually chasing you down to have a conversation, in a way turning the table on her.

Picture yourself at the party or event and while you are engaging the entire group, you don’t even acknowledge she is there nor has any existence at all, what do you think she will be feeling? Most likely she is going to wonder why you didn’t talk to her too; she got showered, dressed up, did her hair, spent probably many more hours on her appearance than you did, so why do you get to decide if she is worth your time or not?

Really you don’t, because you are really trying to win this woman’s affection or at least have her want to engage in a conversation with you, and not talking to her and telling her your great stories you have ready to tell is killing you inside, but you must continue to exude confidence on the outside. Even though you want to talk to her and pay her a nice compliment, you need to stand firm by excluding her for a bit.

The Tear Down

Another way you can show some disinterest and exclude her from your favor would be to make negative comments about her to someone else in the group. Again, this might seem a bit mean or nasty, but it really does help to gain her interest, and if she has any self-worth at all there is a good chance she might just come over and tell you off.

Don’t be afraid when dishing out the insults to give them fully, the prettier the girl is you are after, the harsher your insult should be. If the girl is really that pretty, she already knows it, she has been told so all her life by her parents, friends, teachers, and most certainly other guys, so when one comes along that directly shows he isn’t impressed, she will have to come after you to find out what is so special about you that makes you think you can treat her that way.

Try to avoid making the comments so awful she won’t have any choice but to feel embarrassed, but a few simple insults won’t hurt. You could easily start off with saying something negative about how she looks, that will absolutely hit her where she wants to fight because she probably did spend quite a bit of time getting herself dolled up for this party.

Another negative comment you could make would be to state you can’t believe how she is acting. Saying things like “she must really think she is better than everyone else to be acting the way she is” or “does she think she is too good for the rest of us” will certainly get the grumblings started and the comment will make its way back to her soon enough.

Of course if you are speaking to her directly, you can make these comments directly to her and see what her reaction is immediately. If you were to ask her if her tan was real, or tells her the nails she has on look cheap, that is going to cause her to get pretty upset, but also get her thinking exactly along the lines you want her to.

Remember the goal here is to have her thinking that you must feel she isn’t good enough for your attention, so the comment you make whether it is directly to her or to her friends needs to be quick and allow no response. Simply make the negative remark and walk away, leaving the fog of confidence in your wake.

Another option would be to tease her just a bit while you are having a conversation with her. If she has a high pitched or soft voice you can rib her a bit about it. If she happens to have big feet, or like to twirl her hair a bit, tease her just a little, enough to make her realize you think that you can do better than her for a date.

Hopefully, if you did this correctly, she will at some point in the evening decide she needs to confront you regarding your comment and set you straight. If so, take the opportunity to smile, set up your posture and ask her in your now perfect voice if she would like to dance or join you somewhere for a conversation, which most likely she will at this point since you have made yourself a target of interest for her.

Know the Limit

Just like anything else in life, there is a limit to everything. Even though I told you to dish it out pretty good, especially if your target is so blindingly and obviously pretty you can’t help but stop and stare at her, however everyone has a breaking point as well.

The goal here is to get her to be interested in you, not ruin the party for everyone because you decided to come in and be a jerk by insulting a pretty girl, so make sure you keep your charm and wits about you when passing out the insult or ignoring her. Because you need to read the reactions to your words you will have to be fully armed with the ability to read the body language of others.

Your comments will absolutely gain some form of disdain from whoever you say them to, but you don’t want them to give you the scowl of death. If that happens, you have failed to accomplish your goal here and will need to do some damage control which might include groveling and a good flogging from the lady you were after.

In fact if you have to perform damage control in too extreme a way you are going to have to leave the party. Why did I ask you to deliver negative comments or insults then if there is the risk of having to grovel, maybe get beaten or even asked to leave, because there is a huge reward in taking the right risk, her attention? I certainly hope no one would get beaten over a few negative comments, and I absolve myself of any responsibility for such a situation.

Remember the entire trick here is to simply turn the tables on her, not to drive her into the ground, besides you are attracted to her to start with, so try and read what the reactions are to your comments so you know when you have gone too far.

Don’t Confuse Hooking Up With Making A Connection with Women

Whoa!  I’m not talking about sex here, but a rather a different type of hooking up. I also am not going to just give you the dos and don’ts that the wonderful “love doctors” have done to you for so long. By the way, I think most of those guys live at home in their mothers’ basements, but that’s just my opinion.

Instead we are talking about how to connect with a woman and gain her trust. Ask any woman out there, one thing they value the most and would like to find in a man is someone who provides a sense of security. That security doesn’t always come in the form of financial security, in fact in most cases it doesn’t come from money at all, but rather how a woman feels when she is around you.

If you give of the vibe to a woman that you are a caring, fun, easy going, and most of all trustworthy individual, a lot of times women will let their guard down some and allow you to get to know them. On the other hand if you instead appear to them as a serial killer with duct tape and white panel van waiting to take them away to their death, it won’t matter if you wear your Boy Scout uniform to meet her, she isn’t even going to give you the time of day.

I actually heard an ad not too long ago on the radio that advertised if you wanted to become a better person you should learn a new language. I thought this was really kind of a strange way to advertise learning a second language because if you are an asshole in one language how is learning a second language going to make you less of an asshole; just a thought.

A Little Quiet Time

Probably one of the most important parts of actually getting to connect with a woman is going to be the opportunity you give yourself to do so.  When you are out at a club, have you noticed there are always a few guys who are pretty much the life of the party, and usually you see them go home with one girl one night and maybe another the next. Initially you might feel envious, but do you think they are able to make a real connection with any of the women? The answer is probably not.

These guys who hang out around the bar laughing, telling stories and never leaving the main scene of the club are great and fun, they are obviously very confident, all qualities you should be trying to emulate when you work on getting yourself ready to even come to the party, but they miss out on a few key factors. One of those key factors is finding a quiet place to make a connection with a woman.

It’s possible these gents are really just a scared as you once were, but probably not, however you can have the upper hand in creating something with meaning and passion, or at least some interest by finding a quiet place to have your conversation with a woman you have found interesting.

Obviously we are assuming you have started a conversation with her at the club and decided you want to get to know her a little better, maybe you have even flirted with her a bit, the point is you have gotten her attention already, and she has gotten yours, so what do you do? One possibility, especially if you live in a large city where home are centrally located, is to offer to walk her home from the club.

By offering to do this you are asking for the chance to be alone with her and get to know here a little bit better. Make sure when you offer to do this she is actually ready to go home. If you are asking to walk her home and it’s only nine o’clock at night what are you trying to tell her?  Are you saying its past her bedtime or yours, so please be aware of the timing and make sure she has indicated she is actually ready to go.

Another option, especially if it is early in the evening is to ask if she wants to go grab a bite to eat. A pizza, sandwich, or other easy to eat and certainly not formal type of meal works great and if it is one of these you are giving both of you the chance to depart quickly if the conversation doesn’t go well.

Mainly what you hope to accomplish by having her agree to spend some time alone with you is to get to know each other better, find out if you have some common interests, and gain some of the trust you need from her in order for her to let her guard down and open up. Make sure wherever you two head off to none of either of your friends is around. If they are, most likely they are going to try and join your conversation, which negates the idea of you two being along and having some privacy.

I would also suggest wherever you go there is at least some sense of privacy and quiet. It is really uncomfortable to try and get to know someone by having to shout or by the place being so crowded and buys you almost get separated by the crowd. A nice little table outside, or the walk home will be a great setting for the two of you to find out if you really are attracted to one another.

4 Stages You Have To Master To Succeed With Women

At a friend’s party, it’s crowded, you see a lady across the room that you would really like to talk to, get to know better, or even be able to date. She’s a ten, having a great time, laughing, joking, drinking and flirting, while you sit, a wallflower with sweaty palms, uncomfortable, lacking confidence, and completely unsure how to even approach such a beauty; another opportunity wasted.

If any of this describes you or any experience you have ever had, don’t be alarmed. Don’t go off thinking there is no way you will ever be able to go out with a woman as beautiful, smart, funny, or as popular as the one I just described to you, because there is no reason you can’t date a woman who is a ten in both looks and personality, but you will have to learn what you need to do.

As with anything at all in life, the keys to success are going to be pretty simple. First of all you have to prepare for the task ahead. Asking a woman out, or even beginning a conversation with one, especially one that makes your heart beat faster and the blood leave your brain, is almost as difficult as learning open heart surgery, but it doesn’t have to be.

Second on the list, once you are prepared to approach the lovely lady will be to have some confidence. Not only do you have to be confident in yourself, but also confident in the fact she is another person, just as vulnerable and self-conscious as you are. With that in mind you might stand a fighting chance against the queen of all beasts, the one thing that has always had men on their heels; a woman.

Once you have gotten your preparation done, and gained the confidence to actually approach your intended target, you will need to know how to make that approach. You can’t go in there caveman style and beat her over the head with a club and drag her away by her hair. But you also can’t be meek and mild as a church mouse that never gets seen, so we will have to discuss at length how you need to approach the young beauty that has caught your eye.

The last part is how you are going to play the game. Which is exactly what we have going on here isn’t it. Which one of you will get the upper hand over the other in this game of attraction that hopefully will have two winner, the two of you because if you both don’t win, then you lose. It really is that simple, but you have to know the rules and how to actually play to have a chance.

That will be our journey, in a nutshell, preparation, confidence, approach, and playing the game; how much simpler can I make it for you? It sounds simple, just like a Rubik’s Cube looks like a simple toy, but in reality, this can be the most complex game you have ever played, but you are going to love or hate every minute of it as you try to win the hand of the woman who caught your eye.