How Do You Know If You’ve Found the One? – 7 Signs

You’ve been dating for a while. You think it might be getting serious. The two of you spend a lot of time together, know each other pretty well, and have a better time together than apart.

But is this it? Have you found “The One”?

Every relationship is different. What makes a person “The One” will vary from one relationship to another, but there are some common signs that what you’ve found is the real deal. If you can answer yes to most of these questions, you may have the person you’ll be spending the future with.

1. Can you talk to her about anything or nothing at all? You tell this person your deepest secrets or a silly cat story without worrying that she’ll think less of you. You can always find something to talk about with this person. You also don’t get bored listening to her. Well, okay, maybe the tenth time she told that story about the matching socks. But you’ll listen anyway because she always listens to your stories even when you’ve told them before.

2. Can you be silent with her? When you’re truly comfortable with someone, you don’t always have to be talking. You can sit in silence without feeling awkward.

3. Does she “get” you? She knows when you’re joking and laughs with you. She can follow your train of thought even if it jumped the track three stations back. She understands that the first scent of fall makes you a little sad, and she knows a hug goes a long way to make you happy again. She knows your sister makes you madder than anyone else on the planet. She knows you love her anyway. She loves her too, because you do.

4. Do you know that she’ll be there for you during, and after, an emergency? One true test of a relationship is how the couple acts when things go wrong. Do you pull together or push each other away? If you’re better able to deal with stress when you’re together, that’s a sign your relationship is strong.

5. Is she as proud of your accomplishments as you are?ΓΏ”The One” will cheer you on when you do something great, and push you to do better when you’re not at your best. She won’t be threatened or jealous when you succeed. She’ll feel like she’s succeeded, too.

6. Does she make an effort to connect with your family and friends? People who are important to you are important to her, too. She treats your family like family and your friends like friends. You do the same for her. Yes, even her crazy Aunt Sally, the one who knits you cat sweaters at Christmas.

7. Do you miss her when she’s not around? Are you happier with her than when she’s gone?

It’s important to remember that things don’t have to be perfect. You may disagree or need some space from time to time. But if you genuinely feel like you’re a better person when they’re around, and you trust that as you grow, they’ll grow with you, you’ve found your “One.”

Confident or Arrogant? How to Attract Women Without Being an Jerk

One of the few pieces of dating advice that almost everyone agrees on is that you need to be confident to attract a woman.

In fact, studies have shown that women are attracted to men they see as having greater status in life. The key there is “men they see as having greater status” – in other words, men who appear confident and certain of their own worth.

It’s good advice: Be confident in yourself, and you’ll be more attractive to women. The problem comes when a guy gets carried away with being confident, or worse, gets too convinced of his own awesomeness. There’s a thin line between confidence and arrogance. Only one of those two qualities gets you the girl.

How can you tell if you’re being charmingly confident or annoyingly arrogant? Or more to the point, how can you tell before she makes it clear by walking away in disgust?

The following five areas are were most men cross the line between being full of confidence and being full of themselves.The next time you’re out with a woman, stick to the do’s listed below and avoid the don’t’s. You’ll find that she’s she’s way more into you when you’re not so into yourself.

DO: Talk about yourself. It’s cool to talk about your accomplishments, your hobbies, anything about you that makes you interesting. That’s part of getting to know each other. Keep it focused on your activities and interests, not your possessions. Any girl who isn’t just after your wallet is more interested in knowing you went camping last weekend than in knowing you drove to the campsite in a new limited edition extended cab truck with all the bells and whistles.

DON’T: Only talk about yourself. It’s a conversation, not a monologue or a job interview. For everything you say about yourself, she should get a chance to share something about herself, too. And another don’t – don’t act like she ought to be impressed with how awesome you are. If you act like you’re God’s gift to women, she’s going to feel like you’re the ugly sweater her aunt gives her every year at Christmas.

DO: Admit when you’ve made mistakes. Whether you make a mistake while talking to her or you’re telling a story about the past where you goofed up, own up to it. Laugh about it if you can, or simply acknowledge that you learned from the experience.

DON’T: Blame others for things that have gone wrong. It doesn’t make you look stronger, less stupid, or more attractive. Strength comes from taking responsibility, not dodging it.

DO: Treat everyone with respect. Especially her, and especially the people serving you. She’ll notice how you treat people. Kindness and respect towards others shows you’re confident. You don’t have to try to make others look bad or inferior to make yourself look better.

DON’T: Be an ass. Really. It’s that simple.

DO: Express your opinions. Even if she clearly doesn’t agree. Have a conversation where you both share – and listen to – each other’s point of view. Keep it light, though, especially if you don’t know each other well. Heated debates can wait a date or two.

DON’T: Tell her how she should think, or act as if her opinions are dumb just because she doesn’t agree with you. Everyone likes to be listened to and taken seriously. If you do that for her, it won’t matter if you don’t agree. The fact that you’re confident enough in yourself that you can treat her like she has a brain means that she’ll still think you’re the most intelligent man she’s ever met.

When you’re confident, you don’t have to prove anything. You know you’re a great person. You also know you’re not perfect and you’re okay with other people knowing that, too.

When you’re arrogant, it usually is a cover for a fear that you’re not as great a person as you want to be. You’re desperate to hide that fear, so you try to put people down to make yourself look better.

A man who is comfortable with who he is as a person is much more attractive than a man who’s scared he’s not good enough. Show the woman you’re attracted to that you’re that confident guy. In a world full of guys acting like arrogant asses, she’ll be drawn to your strength and self-assurance.