I do not mean for your to take off your clothes, run around in your birthday suit and let the world see how well equipped you are. I’m pretty certain if you did this the men with the wonderful white jackets that make you hug yourself would show up, and then this booklet is useless to you anyway.
No, in fact what I do mean by revealing yourself is our next section of showing interest and that is to show. Now, instead of just teasing and flirting, or trying to hide and ignore her, you are actually going to give this woman some much deserved attention.
What you are going to do when showing her some attention is to give her a compliment, on what she said, laugh at her jokes, or simply state a positive opinion on her end of the conversation. What you do when you give her these compliments is show her that you aren’t such a bad guy after all.
Once again, our “dating doctors” won’t even touch this subject at all. The reason for that is they don’t think you should ever tease or flirt with a woman. Apparently women are to be on a pedestal and adored, not treated like people. Who wants that? Not one single woman I have ever known said they would like this kind of treatment all the time, so don’t do it.
Instead, after you have given few good teases give her a compliment or two. Say things like “that’s a great point, you might be worth my time after all” or “that was really funny, I guess you aren’t that bad”. By setting her up with these compliments, she will start to seek your approval, or at the very least be interested in your response to her comments and stories.
As long as you mix it up really well, many women will enjoy a conversation where they get teased and complimented, and are able to give both back. There is nothing wrong with, and it actually can be a bit refreshing for a woman to be able to act a bit less like a lady for a while, let her hair down, and have some fun back and forth conversation.
If you can get into this situation, how do you think the both of you are going to react? In your case, we already know you are attracted to her, but now she is obviously interested in you and your opinion of what she has to say, so bravo to you, you have found a way to win over her attention by treating her like an equal, and not like a porcelain doll that needs to be set on the shelf.
The advice in the last three sections really does need to go hand in hand. I would suggest to anyone who employs this advice to practice with friends and family before going out to a club or party. The likelihood of you coming home and needing to ice something down is much greater if you haven’t practiced first.
I also know the steps and ideas seem a bit risky, but when was anything in life that was worth going after not at least a bit of a risk. In order to have some actual success when going to parties and to the clubs you have to be willing to be vulnerable, clever, and not mind a little rejection.
At the end of the day, the most important part of the advice I can give you regarding the hide, tease, show technique is to remember to read the body language and ensure what you are doing actually feels right. You don’t want to throw a tease at a woman who just told her story to you about a close relative dying, that wouldn’t be appropriate at all.
By that same token, you would not want to be so brutal with hiding from her that she loses complete interest in you because maybe now she thinks you are a jerk, it is a fine line that you must walk in order to be successful with this technique. Because I know this is a fine line, and isn’t 100% successful I suggest the practice sessions with friends and family. If you have a good looking woman friend or relative to help you practice, that’s even better for you to ensure you will be prepared to use this technique successfully.
Just remember, have fun; allow the woman to show you some attention and flirt with you as much as you do with her, and read the body language she gives off to make sure what you are doing is appropriate for the situation you are in. Even if you aren’t successful, maybe you will at least avoid the frozen vegetable on the old twig and berries at the end of the night.