Now that you have your posture down, and your hands under control how do you actually work your body language out in public, especially at a party. It won’t be enough to just be able to stand correctly, you must understand the small movements to make and what they will mean.
If you are standing in a group with the woman you are interested in having a conversation with, make sure you don’t stand directly face to face with her. Instead stand at a bit of an angle as if you are getting ready to go talk to someone else. This helps add to the fact that you are not a threat to her, why would you be when you are about to go talk to someone else?
The next step, when in a group is to make sure you include the entire group. In order to do this you must face away from the woman you are after and actually talk to other people, just make sure you don’t face directly to them either. The best way to start this is to turn your back to the woman you are interested in to start with just to start including the group. By doing this you can work your way around back to her after speaking with everyone.
A trick you can employ is the step back in move. To accomplish this you will need to actually step as if you are leaving the group, make sure the conversations are over before doing this, and step away from the group, but step back as if you just noticed something. Make sure you have noticed something nice, like her shoes or a bracelet that the woman you are after is wearing; then compliment her.
If the group is sitting at a table, you need to ask if you can sit with them, but state you will only be a minute because you need to go speak with someone else. Follow this up with a compliment to the woman you are interested in, but don’t forget to include the group in any conversation you might have. Excuse yourself after a couple of minutes and find someone else to go talk to, it’s very likely someone from the group may come back to you and invite you to rejoin them.
Why wouldn’t you just stand next to the table and talk to everyone? If you do this, you will feel uncomfortable, and your body language will appear to be uncomfortable and awkward. It is far better to join the group in their discussion at the same level as them. By doing this, you are quickly inserting yourself into the group.
With your new appreciation for how important body language is and in possession of a voice that is perfect for anyone to listen to, what more do you need in order to gain the favor of a beautiful woman and have a conversation with her? The answer is you still have a lot to learn, remember we agreed there are going to be seven keys to success and so far we have only covered two.