How to Meet Someone Without Entering the Bar Scene

If you’re single and don’t want to be, you’ve probably encountered this problem: how do you meet someone that’s good dating material? The traditional solution – go to a bar – works sometimes. But it does raise a few issues.
For one thing, it often seems like the majority of people who go to a bar to meet others are more interested in hooking up than really getting to know each other. For another, it’s kind of a crap shoot. How do you know there will be anyone in the bar that you like?

If you’re sick of the bar scene, it’s time to try something new. Think about it for a moment: if you want to find someone who shares your interests, it makes sense to go places where you can do things you’re interested in, right? Here are some great places to meet someone that aren’t a bar or club:

Get involved in a sport. If you enjoy playing tennis, basketball, or even bowling, find a local adult league you can join. You may meet the person of your dreams there. Even if you don’t, you’re likely to make friends. The more people you know, the better your chances of being introduced to the person of your dreams through your friends.

Take a class. Whether it’s something you enjoy doing or something you’ve always wanted to learn, you’re likely to find a few kindred spirits when you take a class. You can find continuing education classes through colleges and sometimes through your city’s activities department. Hobby shops sometimes hold classes or at least have advertisements for classes given elsewhere.

Try a specialized dating site. You may have tried general dating sites before and sworn them off. In some ways, they’re no better than a bar. You have people with all sorts of different personalities and interests, so trying to find a match is difficult. Specialized dating sites cut down on some of the crowd by catering to people with specific interests. There are dating sites for geeks, horseback riders, farmers, book lovers, pet lovers … you name it, you can probably find a dating site for it.

Volunteer somewhere.Pick a cause that’s near and dear to your heart and become a volunteer. You may meet someone with similar values and chemistry you can’t resist.

Get political. If politics make you passionate. join the local chapter of your favorite political party. You’ll find plenty of like-minded people, and one of them might just be “the one”.

Go to a convention. Love movies, comic books, games, TV shows? If you’re a bit of a geek, there’s probably a convention for whatever you geek out about. And where there are conventions, there are fellow geeks who may end up sharing more than your interest in Dr. Who memorabilia.

Go to a music festival. On a similar note, attend a music festival dedicated to the kind of music you love. There might be someone there who strikes just the right chord.

Spend some time at a bookstore. If you’re an avid reader, there’s a chance your perfect mate might be off reading a book right now. The next time you’re in a bookstore, check out your fellow readers as well as the latest bestsellers.

Ditto music or musical instrument stores. Are you a music lover? Music stores – both the kind that sell CDs and the kind that sell musical instruments – are great places to strike up a conversation about the bands you love. Who knows where it might lead?

Check out This website is dedicated to helping people “meet up” with other people in their area who have similar interests. It’s not a dating site. It’s for people who want to find a group to do something with – anything from hiking to knitting to discussing books. It’s a great way to meet new people who share your interests, and one of them might even end up sharing your life.

If you’re trying to crack the code of how to meet someone without relying on the bar scene, you’ve got to think outside the box. Put yourself in places where your perfect match is likely to be and build your network of like-minded friends.By doing this, you can increase your odds of meeting someone you can truly connect with.