You want to hear something funny?
Guys take so much time going over the approach and all the dating tips that have to do with it, that they forget it’s just the beginning. They literally have no idea what to do after the girl says yes.
The truth is, that the first date is what will really break or make it for you, and the approach is just a necessary stepping stone to get to that point.
What’s more, if your first date sucks, you can be absolutely sure there won’t be a second one…
…and that there won’t be a relationship, either.
This is pretty obvious, right?
So, you want to make sure your first date is absolutely amazing, but how do you do that?
It’s actually easier than you think. Here’s how:
Give her some time.
This is extremely important. When you ask a girl out, don’t force her to change all her plans.
You don’t want her to have to reschedule her whole day just to meet with you, although if you really did a great job approaching her, she will.
Generally speaking, you really have to make sure that you respect her time, and give her a few days to get ready for that date.
This will show her that you are willing to give her space and you realize she has a life outside of dating.
Come to her.
…and pick her up.
Women like to feel flattered (even if they don’t say it.) I can promise you, your girl will feel amazing if you pick her up at the house, especially if you have to go out of your way to do that.
Of course, you should never make a fuss about it, but mentioning casually that it took time and effort to get to her will make her feel appreciated.
I came across some interesting research recently, and here’s what they figured:
82% of women like to pay for their dinner on the first date, and as much as 52% wouldn’t have anything against paying for yours as well.
What’s more 78% of them won’t like you giving them your coat even when it’s cold, so…
…what do you do?
Do you run to get her chair or open doors for her? Certainly not by default. What you need to do is figure out what kind of girl she is.
She’ll tell you exactly what to do through body language and facial expressions, so you really should watch out for that.
If she’s happy when you give her a hand, keep doing it, but if there’s anything in her communication telling you she doesn’t like it much…
You have two ears and one mouth for a reason.
I don’t know exactly who coined that phrase in, but I love it. As you spend time with her, you should really make sure you listen at least twice as much as you speak.
This, of course, doesn’t mean that you should be quiet unnecessarily, but you definitely need to let her talk.
Most people don’t get heard as much as they’d like to, and (in case you don’t know) talking about yourself stimulates the same areas in the brain as food and sex, so…
…when she talks about herself and knows that you’re listening, she’ll feel amazing, and she’ll associate that great feeling with you.
Watch your body language.
The best way to show your girl that you’re listening to her and care about what she’s saying is through body language.
Be sure to lean in, and maintain eye contact when she’s talking (but avoid staring).
You can also occasionally comment on what she said or even paraphrase it, which will also help make sure you understand her correctly.
This is all communication 101, but you’d be surprised how many guys get freaked out and forget about this.
Don’t split up after the date.
You brought here here, and you’re the one that should take her home. This, again, makes her feel special, but it also shows her that you’re ready to protect her.
Walking around in the dark can be dangerous, especially for young, attractive women, so be sure she’s home and safe.
PRO TIP: Text her about an hour after the date is over.
…and don’t worry about it too much!
You don’t have to say anything special, in fact, the more casual you are about this, the better. Simply let her know that you had fun with her and thank her for a great evening.
This will let her know that you’re not just back in your world, but that you’re thinking about her, and she’ll feel great (again.)
If you follow these tips, the quality of your first dates will increase significantly. Go ahead, try them, and share your experience in the comments below.