7 Steps To A Perfect First Date… Every Time

You want to hear something funny?

Guys take so much time going over the approach and all the dating tips that have to do with it, that they forget it’s just the beginning. They literally have no idea what to do after the girl says yes.

The truth is, that the first date is what will really break or make it for you, and the approach is just a necessary stepping stone to get to that point.

What’s more, if your first date sucks, you can be absolutely sure there won’t be a second one…
…and that there won’t be a relationship, either.

This is pretty obvious, right?

So, you want to make sure your first date is absolutely amazing, but how do you do that?

It’s actually easier than you think. Here’s how:

Give her some time.

This is extremely important. When you ask a girl out, don’t force her to change all her plans.

You don’t want her to have to reschedule her whole day just to meet with you, although if you really did a great job approaching her, she will.

Generally speaking, you really have to make sure that you respect her time, and give her a few days to get ready for that date.

This will show her that you are willing to give her space and you realize she has a life outside of dating.
Come to her.

…and pick her up.

Women like to feel flattered (even if they don’t say it.) I can promise you, your girl will feel amazing if you pick her up at the house, especially if you have to go out of your way to do that.

Of course, you should never make a fuss about it, but mentioning casually that it took time and effort to get to her will make her feel appreciated.

Independent, or…

I came across some interesting research recently, and here’s what they figured:

82% of women like to pay for their dinner on the first date, and as much as 52% wouldn’t have anything against paying for yours as well.

What’s more 78% of them won’t like you giving them your coat even when it’s cold, so…

…what do you do?

Do you run to get her chair or open doors for her? Certainly not by default. What you need to do is figure out what kind of girl she is.

She’ll tell you exactly what to do through body language and facial expressions, so you really should watch out for that.

If she’s happy when you give her a hand, keep doing it, but if there’s anything in her communication telling you she doesn’t like it much…

…stop immediately.

You have two ears and one mouth for a reason.

I don’t know exactly who coined that phrase in, but I love it. As you spend time with her, you should really make sure you listen at least twice as much as you speak.

This, of course, doesn’t mean that you should be quiet unnecessarily, but you definitely need to let her talk.

Most people don’t get heard as much as they’d like to, and (in case you don’t know) talking about yourself stimulates the same areas in the brain as food and sex, so…

…when she talks about herself and knows that you’re listening, she’ll feel amazing, and she’ll associate that great feeling with you.

Watch your body language.

The best way to show your girl that you’re listening to her and care about what she’s saying is through body language.

Be sure to lean in, and maintain eye contact when she’s talking (but avoid staring).

You can also occasionally comment on what she said or even paraphrase it, which will also help make sure you understand her correctly.

This is all communication 101, but you’d be surprised how many guys get freaked out and forget about this.

Don’t split up after the date.

You brought here here, and you’re the one that should take her home. This, again, makes her feel special, but it also shows her that you’re ready to protect her.

Walking around in the dark can be dangerous, especially for young, attractive women, so be sure she’s home and safe.

PRO TIP: Text her about an hour after the date is over.

…and don’t worry about it too much!

You don’t have to say anything special, in fact, the more casual you are about this, the better. Simply let her know that you had fun with her and thank her for a great evening.

This will let her know that you’re not just back in your world, but that you’re thinking about her, and she’ll feel great (again.)

If you follow these tips, the quality of your first dates will increase significantly. Go ahead, try them, and share your experience in the comments below.

Great Anniversary Gifts Ideas For Pampering Her

For gifting something unique while celebrating your wonderful years of togetherness, you can pick any of the following ideas:

1. Create and Customize Your Own Plaque: A gift that is custom created is always special, especially if it has a sentimental touch and spin to it. For this type of gift you will want to select a cherished photo of you two and get it converted into a wooden plaque with a quote that expresses your unique relationship.

2. Personalized Cushion: If you are looking for a very romantic and emotional gift, then gift her a personalized cushion with something you said that made her smile.

3. Personalized Mobile Case: This is a great way to always be on her mind. Most people never leave home without their cell phone. You can make a beautiful collage with the most memorable photos of your journey so far and get this printed on a mobile case.

4. Reasons I Love You Stone: There are many online shopping websites from where you can buy such stones. This kind of gift will serve as a constant reminder to her that she is loved and lucky to have you.

5. Perfume: This is a great gift for both of you. Spend some time in a department store and sample some fragrances that you would love to smell on your woman’s neck. Then, pick a pretty gift bag and place the perfect fragrance on her dressing table. This will not only delight her but may even know her socks off. Also, whenever she will wear it, you will be the first thought in her mind.

6. New Clothes: A women’s closet is a crucial part of her life. Gift her the kind of dress that she always wanted to buy but thought the money would be better spend somewhere else. Although you might find this to be an old idea, it happens to be the most effective one too. If you really want to go the extra mile, wrap the dress up in a beautiful box, leave it on the bed with a note card that says slip into this and meet me by the front door at 8:00pm sharp for our dinner date.

7. Wrist Watch or Bangle Bracelet: An elegant wrist piece is always a great option. Woman will never get enough of adding to their collection and there is something sensual about having jewelry wrapped around our wrist. Also, never assume that she has enough already because there is nothing like that feeling of newness and flare that every accessory brings with it.

8. Finger Ring: Rings will always be an unbeatable gift. It is not necessarily true that the more expensive the better. In fact, you will win major points with your woman if you keep her favorite color in mind when shopping. A magical way you can present her with the ring is by propose to her all over again and making the evening that much more romantic.

There you have it!! A well thought through list of eight exquisite and unique gift giving ideas. You can’t go if you chose any of the option above and decide in advance that you are going to make this anniversary one she will never forget.

7 Simple Ways To Make Your Ex Girlfriend Come Crawling Back

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It was blissful while it lasted, right? You met the only woman who stood out among all the other women in that crowd, had her in your arms, and then one day, you lost her. What happened? Well, it was mostly your fault. Apparently, you’ve taken her granted and you’ve done quite a number of things that offended your relationship. At first, it was all just a blur, but as days passed, the gruesome reality hit you—she’s gone.

One morning, you realize that you cannot make it without her anymore. You want her back, but is it even possible? Fortunately, it is. All you have to do is pay attention and take note of the following ways to make your ex girlfriend come crawling back:

1. Never become a friend to her.

If you allow yourself to become her friend, then there is no chance you can get her back. Women have the ability to see men as mere comrades and nothing more. If you want her in your arms again, do not be the shoulder to cry on.

2. Stop checking up on her.

Calling her every five to ten minutes is not a great idea either. Missing her makes you have that urge to see how she is doing all the time. You find yourself calling her number several times a day. This won’t win her heart back. Instead, it suffocates her. Give her time to think things over.

3. Make sure you respect her privacy.

Stalking your ex girlfriend is never a good idea. She and her friends will notice it right away. Even if you make your monitoring discreet, she will find out because women can sense when someone watches them. Do not even consider cyber stalking. In cyber stalking, you check her social network profiles constantly and like all of her posts. Please avoid doing this because it is really unsettling.

4. Be patient.

Give your ex girlfriend time to herself. Allow her to recuperate from the breakup. You cannot consider forcing her to be with you again. Never be aggressive in getting her back or you will just scare her away. Being forceful only reminds her of the reasons why she broke up with you in the first place.

5. Take care of yourself.

Remember that women are easily attracted by men who look good. After the break up, make sure you go to the gym, get a new haircut, and purchase new clothes. Looking good not only attracts other women. It also makes your ex wonder what is going on in your life. She’ll definitely notice you when you look so much more handsome when the two of you parted ways.

6. Have fun.

Spend time with your friends. Have fun and strike conversations with other women. Once your ex finds out that you’re going out with friends, she could make an effort in joining you some time.

It’s never easy to get your ex girlfriend back. You have to make an extra effort in making her see how different you are, and how willing you are to make changes, just to have her by your side again.

7. And if you are truly ready to bring out the arsenal, There’s nothing more powerful than jealousy when it comes to affairs of the heart.

Jealousy is often seen as a negative emotion. Many people don’t cherish the idea that another person doesn’t trust them with the opposite sex. For men like you, who have just broken up with their girlfriends, jealousy can be a positive thing. You can use jealousy to even get your ex girlfriend back.

Some people see jealousy as a gauge of their partners’ love for them. The greater the degree of jealousy, the happier they are. To them, if their partners are jealous, their partners really love them. So, how can you make your ex girlfriend jealous, now that it’s over between the two of you?

Take note that if you do succeed in making her jealous, there is a possibility for the two of you to rekindle your relationship. They say that love is sweeter the second time. Maybe this can prove true for you. Check out these tricks in making your ex girlfriend jealous:

1. Completely ignore her.

This is very challenging to do because if you want her back, then all you can think of is her. Try to overcome the urge to text, greet, email, or call her. Suck it up and just do what you do without her in your life. When you do this, your ex will wonder why you suddenly decided to stop reaching out to her. Wonder turns into jealousy because what seems to be a loss in interest in her could mean that another woman has won your heart already.

2. Tag her in your FB photos.

If you’re still friends in Facebook, see to it that you tag her in your photos. Concentrate on those that have you posing with other women. When your ex sees the photos, she will wonder if any of those women has already won your affections. If your ex still has feelings for you, then jealousy can spark easily.

Also tag her in your photos that show how much fun you’re having with friends or in certain activities. Take note that women, in general, do not respond to pity parties. Once your ex sees how happy and carefree you are, she will be interested in you again.

3. Call her occasionally.

After ignoring her for a time, call her. This lets her know that you are open to catching up with her. Never cry over the phone. Never tell her how much you love her. Just call her because you’re in good spirits. Your cheery voice will show her how okay you are. This will make her wonder why you’re not missing her at all.

4. Talk to other women.

It is best to do this when you know that your ex will be at the same place as you are—It may be a small gathering or a party. If she is there, then always talk to other women. This will make her think about how to catch your attention. Maybe she’ll end up with you by the end of the party.

If you succeed in making your ex girlfriend jealous, then there is a chance for you to get her back. When this pulls through, make the second time count.

If you want more tips to get her back…


Check out the Ex Back System which is a classic program that has been around for a while. It basically teaches you how to get your girlfriend back by just texting her occasionally. I like texting as it is easy and convenient without having to commit too much time or effort. You get the best outcome from the least effort.

3 Reasons Why You Should Avoid Free Dating Sites (And What To Do Instead)

There are many reasons why you should never use free dating sites if you’re looking for someone to have a relationship with. Naming all of them would be impossible, but I’ll take a moment to share a few with you, that I believe are particularly important for your well being and safety.

Before you read through them, however, you should know that although the things we’ll discuss might seem scary, the reason I tell you about them is so that you can make an informed decision about which dating sites to use.

Having said that, let’s talk about…

1. Sexual predators.

It is estimated that over 40,000,000 Americans use dating portals regularly, and great deal of them opt for the free option.

Why? Because there are literally dozens of free dating services available.

The problem with that is, however, that sexual predators don’t use paid sites, either. Why should they, really? There’s plenty of options to take advantage of without ever spending a penny.

Over 25% of all rapists in the United States use dating sites to find, and get in touch with their victims. In fact, it’s probably even worse now, as that statistic is based on research done quite a while ago, when the internet wasn’t nearly as popular as it is today.

If you use a paid dating service, what you do is put in an extra layer of protection between you and a potential sexual predator.

This, obviously, doesn’t mean that you don’t have to be careful. Quite the opposite, actually. You still need to follow the standard safety protocol (i.e.: never share personal information in your profile, keep in mind that whatever you publish is permanent, and that pretty much anyone has access to the info once it’s up on the web.

You ARE, however, much safer spending a little money to access the site (apart from the fact that a predator wouldn’t want to spend money there, those sites are usually protected better, and much harder to hack, as the people who manage them have the capital needed to keep everyone safe.

2. Data security.

You may or may not know this, but very few free online dating websites use secure to transfer data where it needs to be.

Of course, the ones that do, are normally those that you pay for, such as OKCupid.com, AdoneNamoro.com, GirlsDateForFree.com or DateTheUK.com just to name a few.

When you use those services, any data you provide gets encrypted before it’s sent out, so that it’s virtually impossible to decipher it, thus keeping everything safe to use.

3. Defamation.

This can happen to anyone.

You’re at a dating portal, just having a casual conversation with someone who you just met. You’ve never seen them in person, and in essence, you don’t know who they are.

The conversation is going great, so you begin sharing personal information, such as your daily schedule, your dietary habits or even your sexual practices.

After you talk, you decide you’re going to meet up at a nearby coffee shop, and you log out.

The truth is, however, that many of the free sites will store your entire conversation, simply because they don’t have an efficient system in place to remove it.

Since the conversation is stored, any one can go out, take a look at what you talked about, use a few simple tools and share the conversation with the whole world.

Before you know it, your great reputation is gone… all because of a casual chit chat.

So, what should you do to protect yourself?

1. Stick to paid dating sites.

The people who run them know what they’re doing, and they have many more resources and means to make sure that you’re safe and secure when you use their portal.

2. Be sure the site uses a secure server.

You’ll be able to spot that by seeing HTTPS as opposed to the good ‘ol HTTP in your address bar. When you see the S, you know that no one other than you and the website administrators can access your sensitive data.

3. Make sure that the site administrators are upfront with you.

They should tell you who has access to the data, and also it needs to have tools in place where your data is only visible to the people who you want to see it.

This way, you’ll be able to safe guard your data with ease.

So, there you go.

The Internet can be a dangerous place, especially when you don’t know how to protect yourself.

The whole point of dating, whether offline or online is to meet new people, so staying safe as you search has to be a priority.

Paid dating sites provide much more security than any free dating service available out there. Do yourself a favor, and don’t risk it. Spend a few dollars each month and have a peace of mind for the rest of your life.

Have fun dating and be safe!

The Best Fruitful Way to Win Back Your Wife

Winning back a loved one requires courage, perseverance, hope, spirit, and a small degree of pride. Above all, it requires skills and strategies to make her change her mind. The good news is that getting the skills is easy.

As a man, flashback on how you got her to date you in the first place and how easy it was to focus on her happiness. Now is the time to use those very same skills to try and re-fix the marriage. They worked once and they can work again if you choose to use them.

Once she understands that all of your attention and energy is directed at her, she will most likely put her pride aside, reconsider her lonely status without you, and eventually come back. If it still does not work, try to incorporate other skills as discussed in the following informative paragraphs.

For you to succeed in the second chance, introducing yourself all over again is quite necessary. When that opportunity to meet her presents itself or pops up, show her how important she is to you. Do not be at all be ashamed. Be a man and express your needs to her.

Re-introducing yourself also means getting rid of the past ill behaviors that pushed her away. Settle it in your mind that you are going back to the start and will never again do those things that have hurt her. Go out of our way to make your wife understand how you have change, what makes you think it will work now, and assist her to see the world from your perspective. By all means, convince her on the worth and respect she will gain by sticking to one partner in life, and that you are the only one for each other.

You should always be there to try and please her, especially during this sensitive time. It is sad but true that often times people tend to please strangers more than the ones that they love. Right or wrong? Your wife is worth more than all the gold in this world so treat her like the treasure that she truly is. It is solid ground to build your comeback strategy on pleasing her.

If and when you get the chance to talk to her, treat her like she is the most important person on the planet. By doing it and even without enquiring for it, she will do the same in return. It is human nature and works like a charm. Specifically, as she leaves escort her back to the car and give her a hug, but not a kiss. This will leave her wanting more and pining for your affection.

Another important tip to keep in mind at this time is to make listening your habit and pay close attention to everything she says. This will not only make her feel valued but it will give you clues as to where she is at in considering reconciling.

The last skill in succeeding through the second chance stage should be to use your masculine skills. Remember you are a man so act like a lion and show some pride by backing off for a bit. As part of the conversation, tell her how much you cannot survive or thrive without each other. This will give her the impression that you are chasing her, which works wonders at winning her back, BUT do come across as desperate and understand that before meeting her, you were still an individual with a life. If you show some independence, she will change her attitude. Do not be clingy and give her adequate space to think things through. If she refuses to answer you calls, leave a message such as “Hello my dear, we were meant for each other. I cherish you. Talk to you soon.” Your goal is to always make every form of contact with an outcome in mind, which is to receive the reaction that you want and allow her to find her way back into your arms where she belongs.

The Wrong And Right Way To Text Messaging Women

You want this woman, so when you feel that she’s closing the window, you think the smart thing to do is to text her. Keep the connection there and keep the hope alive and surely that’ll change her mind is how many men think.

The truth about messaging with a woman that you want to sleep with is that there’s a right and a wrong way to do it. The right way will get you into her life and into her bed.

In fact, it can change her mind about you even if she blew you off in the past. If you text her the wrong way, you could possibly end up as joke material making the rounds between her and her friends.

And you end up with that opportunity gone forever if you make the same messaging mistakes that a lot of men make. Let’s take a look at some of the wrong ways that a man can message a woman.

There’s the caveman approach. These are messages that make her feel like she’s been hit by a truck or she’s being chased by a tiger. If you come across as too forceful or too powerful, she’s going to shut you down.

This means that you have to keep your testosterone at bay when you’re texting her. So power down and do the messaging the right way – the way that will get you the girl that you want.

Don’t take it to the other extreme or you’ll come across as the guy who needs serious help. These guys text in an anxious, needy kind of way that makes her think that she’s dealing with an immature, overgrown kid rather than a man.

While a woman will always want to help a needy man because of her nurturing nature, you can bet that help doesn’t mean into her bed. Texting a woman is the one place that you want to stand out from the crowd, but in a good way.

You don’t want your texts to be interchangeable with the next guy’s and the only differences are your names. If you send text messages that are just like every other guy’s messages are, these will translate into boring with her and they don’t end up leaving an impression at all.

But you also don’t want to message her like you’re auditioning for a comedy club routine either. Trying to be funny and her not getting your sense of humor won’t give you any points with her.

It will make her confused – or worse – make her feel stupid or think that you’re stupid. So don’t try to be a comedian. You can have a sense of humor, but you have to make sure that she gets it.

How do you know if you’re blowing it with your texting? She’s answering your messages, but you haven’t gotten one single step closer to getting her into bed. You’re trying to take the next step, you’re suggesting meetings or drinks or dinner and she’s always got a reason why it’s not going to happen.

You’re getting the text brush off but you just haven’t realized it yet. The number one way that guy’s go wrong when texting a woman is that put themselves in family member status.

Or friend zone. They send messages that ask how things are going for her, what was her day at the office like, blah, blah. Sounds real sexy, doesn’t it? The problem is that you’re thinking how you’re showing interest and some affection and concern for her well-being.

Meanwhile, she’s either lumping you with her friends or family and she’s thinking about other things. You want to use your messaging as a seduction tool and stream lined system.

Right Way to Message a Woman

If you’re thinking that it takes a volley of back and forth texts to get the woman that you want, you’re wrong. It takes three – and it really is that easy. But the kicker is you have to know what those three texts are.

You have to know how to send them and how to get her response. There’s a lot that you need to learn about women and this is one of the main things. They don’t want to read your little one-word responses or your short, cryptic text messages.

You communicate that way because you’re a guy and what’s wrong with keeping it simple? Nothing if you don’t want to get that hot girl to have sex with you, but because you do, you have to do the messaging the right way.

A guy’s normal response to a woman’s text is usually something like, “Okay” or “What?” or “Yeah, sure”. Lots of sexy stuff in that to make her hot for you. Not. You have to learn how to write things that make her burn for you.

And it all starts emotionally with her. You tap that and you really tap that. It only takes a few seconds to message her with, “I’ve been thinking about you” to open up a conversation that gets her ready to put out.

And it makes her think what a great, thoughtful guy that you are. It takes a little bit of learning to give a woman what she needs through messaging. But in the end, you get what you need so you’re the ultimate winner of the game. Want more great stuff on texting? Check out this great guide.

Create Circumstances To Go For The Kill

We are not actually going to kill anything here, let me make that perfectly clear. If you thought reading that subtitle I was going to instruct you on how to get this woman in the back of your van so you can wear her skin like the serial killer did in Silence of the Lambs you are very mistaken. I realize this section of the booklet is all about isolation, but that is not the kind of isolation we are after here.

What we are actually going to do is continue to gain the upper hand by inviting her to join you for a little quiet time. One of the easiest and most time honored ways to get a woman somewhat alone and be allowed to have some quiet conversation is to ask her to dance. This might be a bit awkward if there is no music playing, no dance floor, and no one else dancing.

If in fact there is a dance floor, people are dancing, and there is music playing (I certainly hope so or we are going to need a lot of those lovely white self-hugger jackets) pick a slow song and ask her to dance with you. You already laid the ground work by flirting with her in a way she probably has never been flirted with before, and you kept her interest by walking away for a while, so most likely she will easily allow you to lead her away for a dance.

While on the dance floor feel free to tell her about yourself, share a couple of your stories if you want, or just dance nicely and enjoy each other. Once the slow dancing is over you should ask her if she would like to go somewhere and sit alone so you can get to know each other better. At this point you have racked up so much control over the situation this should be a formality and now you can finally have the conversation you have been after for so long.

If there is no dancing, don’t start any, the woman may not want everyone watching her start the dancing so be mindful of that fact. How do you get the woman alone with you without the ploy of being able to dance together? What if she is in a group is there some type of protocol for getting her by herself?

Let’s address the first question first, how do you get her alone when there is not dancing involved. If she is alone you just need to go up to her and ask her if she would mind sitting down with you or going to another area where the two of you can get to know each other better.  Because you have already laid out a ton of ground work on this one she should readily accept your invitation and be excited to join you and get to know you better.

In this case if she is already sitting at a table by herself all you really have to do is ask her if she minds if you sit down and join her. Since you have already had a nice flirtation with her before this you should easily be invited to sit down.  At this point, let her know you really want to get to know her better.  Once the conversation starts, it’s time to start telling some of your stories you worked on before.

On the other hand, if this lovely lady is in a group how are you going to be able to get her alone and what should you say? Not only what should you say, but who should you say it to? First of all you need to ask one of her friends in the group if they mind if you borrow their friend for a while. By asking their permission first you are showing she currently belongs to the group and you need the group approval to borrow her.

If the friend agrees to allow you to take her away, then turn to the woman you want to talk to and ask her if she would accompany you to sit down and have a conversation, or go to another area around the party where you can talk.

Earlier I asked you to find a good location where you plan to take this woman and I suggested they be in view of the party, there is a reason for this. If you take her to an area where you can’t hear the party or see the party going on, then you effectively become a threat and her guard goes up very quickly.

If you instead take her to a quiet table where you can both see the party and the party can see you, then you are not a threat at all. She will feel very relaxed and comfortable with you and accept that you only have good intentions for you. This will allow her to focus on you and what you have to say instead of worrying where her next exit is.

However, if the only good places to take her are away from the party, especially outside or in another room, be sure to position yourself so she has a free and clear exit away from you back to the safety of the party. Again this gives her some safety and a feeling of security which is very important as she has made herself vulnerable for you.

Keep in mind in this scenario she has given control over the location and situation to you, it is up to you to be a caretaker for her and not to cause her guard to go up. If you have this thought in the front of your mind and heed my instruction to either be visible to the party or be able to exit safely and quickly, you can keep her happy and feeling safe and secure with you, another plus for you when getting to know her.

Getting To The Finish Line In A Classic Pickup

It’s not really a race, but there is a goal in mind when you meet a woman you are attracted to and have a great conversation with and that goal is a kiss. Depending on the setting, how private the area you are at and the amount of attraction will determine what kind of kiss is really appropriate. You might not want to dive in tongue hanging out and slobber all over her like a Saint Bernard who hasn’t seen its owner in a month. Nor do you want to have your first kiss be the kind you might give to your Grandmother who smells funny either.

The important part of this section isn’t really the type of kiss, although you should be looking for a nice easy soft kiss and let her take charge of the duration and intensity, but rather your focus needs to be more along the lines of when is it appropriate to kiss her.

Setting the scene back up, you have spent all evening with this lovely woman, you have laughed, shared stories, flirted some, and have been holding hands together ever since you told her you could read her palm, how do you ask her for a kiss without sounding like a fool? The other question to this is, do you just go in for a kiss or should you ask?

First of all, the best way to save face, and make sure you are both on the same page is to ask her, so the answer to the second question is no you don’t just dive in like a swimmer heading to the deep end of a swimming pool. It’s appropriate for you to ask and you can ask a couple of different ways.

One way to ask her is to turn the question around on her. Rather than asking her if you can kiss her, ask her if she would like to kiss you. By doing this you can prepare to respond to her either way it goes. If she says “no” then you can respond by telling her you wouldn’t let her kiss you anyway. This makes the question a small flirtation on your part and hopefully will get her thinking about kissing you.

The other way you can ask her for a kiss is to be very straightforward and ask if you can kiss her. The real downside here would be an answer of “no” because you have left yourself vulnerable to her decision, but sometimes a woman likes to see a man show a bit of a vulnerability, so if you feel this is the best way to go about it then by all means go ahead.

Our wonderful “friends” would tell you not to ask, but to just dive right in and take the kiss when you feel it is right. They also tell you to take control of the situation and “be a man” by determining the duration and intensity, they are wrong. By allowing her to determine not only if you two are going to kiss, but also for how long and how strong you are once again showing her that you see her as an equal, not a prize to be won, not a subordinate, but an equal and one who has value.

The other problem with our “oh so sage, expert” advice is what happens if she doesn’t want the kiss. You might only get to kiss her cheek, she might reach up and slap you, and all your efforts will be lost. What was a nice conversation and turning out to be a great night could be ruined by you being way to forward with her; exactly what we don’t want to happen.

Even worse, if she handles your pushing a kiss on her with rejection, but wants to save your feelings would be the “let’s be friends” line she might just give you. We all know that means no relationship is starting up tonight, so in reality to save your dignity and make this a comfortable as possible, please ask the woman if you can kiss her before you even try to.

A Bit of Common Sense

I know some say common sense isn’t so common, but let’s be somewhat realistic here. You could actually meet a nice woman just about anywhere. It could be at the grocery store, shopping center, book club, library, at a sporting event, or just about anywhere. Since you really don’t know where or when you will meet a woman who will grasp your attention there are a couple things to remember.

If the situation does not allow for it, don’t try and take her off somewhere private. If you met a lovely woman at the grocery store, she might find it very strange that you want to interrupt her task of food shopping to slip away somewhere private. A better idea would be to try and get her phone number so you can call or text her later. In this particular case a kiss would probably not be appropriate either, and most likely the conversation will not escalate to the point of getting a kiss in the grocery store, so curb that thought for a while.

Because you really don’t know when or where you will meet the woman you want to spend time with, don’t go looking. Our “advice gurus” once again would tell you to get out there and find that woman you are longing to be with. This simply is not the case, more often than not, you meet a woman who interests you in very unexpected way and unexpected places, so just make sure you are ready to put your best foot forward when the opportunity presents itself.

Planning Your Moves Before Approching A Group Of Women

How are you going to approach the young woman who you want to talk to when she is in a group of friends? What should you say and how are you going to make sure you win her attention? There again are several rules to this approach, much as any other approach and we are going to cover them here, but let’s discuss the friends first.

Why should you care about her friends? Because they will help to shape her opinion of you; you at some point are going to walk away from the group and you want to have made a great impression on everyone in the group, not just her. There are several ways to accomplish this, and we are going to discuss a few, but keep in mind your ability to win her friends over will go a long way.

By now you must be putting it all together and understanding why I had you trying your approach on strangers in groups at work and at the shopping center, all because you are more likely to encounter your intended woman in a group and not alone. If you haven’t noticed already, women tend to travel in packs when out in public and the protection of the herd has to be won in order to join.

With all that said, we again need to look at a few scenarios so we can discover the best way to approach a group. Again I will give you a scenario so you can see what the situation is and figure out the best way to find a way to join into a group, make your impression, and then leave the entire group wanting more.

More Scenarios

In our first scenario, your intended target is surrounded by a group of her friends, all women; she has a drink in her hand and appears to be having a great time. She is laughing is engaged in the conversation and just seems to really be enjoying the party, so how do you approach her?

In this case, and in each case that involves a group, you aren’t really just approaching her; you are approaching the entire group. It doesn’t really matter which member of the group you speak with first, just that you include everyone in your conversation. In fact the best approach will be to position yourself in the group so you are not directly across from her or right next to her.

If for instance your hostess happens to be part of the group you are about to join into, entering the group should be very easy. All you need to do is be sure to look directly at your hostess and thank her for such a lovely party. Once done you can turn to the person to your left or right and introduce yourself, most likely this will lead to introductions all around.

Success, you have quickly and easily joined into the group, and now can start by complimenting each member on something. This can be something they are wearing, their hairstyle, or even an idea they bring up during conversation. Don’t take over the conversation entirely, but rather interject small ideas and be sure to validate what each member of the group thinks.

By doing the work, much like you did with the other groups of women you have practiced on for so long since the last party, you will be included in the group. By placing yourself indirectly near your intended woman, but not right next to or directly across you will give off the impression that all you want is to have a nice conversation and a good time at a party.

At this point you have accomplished a couple different things, as long as you have included the entire group in the conversation, you have earned their favor and respect. Don’t forget to read their body language, if someone seems distressed or closed off, try and say something funny to bring them back in as well.

You will most certainly be asked about your goofy or crazy prop you are wearing, so make sure you have a great story that goes with it. There is no way you are going to have a group of women to talk to and one of them won’t ask you about the item in question.

When should you exit the group? How are you going to exit and still be able to talk to the woman you wanted to later on? Exiting should be simple enough, but the when part is crucial. You should leave when you have talked to all members of the group at least a couple times round, and everyone seems to be laughing and having a great time.

By leaving the group at this time, you leave them wanting more, especially if you told the last joke or story that they are all laughing at, you are absolutely leaving them wanting more and have won their approval. Simply excuse yourself to go speak with someone else, and make sure you do go speak to someone else, so have an idea who else you are going to go talk to. This could be your host or someone else you all know is an important member of the party.

In our next scenario, the lovely lady is again in a group, but it is a mixed group, men and women. The approach is pretty much the same as before. Have a question or two ready to ask the entire group and speak to everyone in the group. You may even win some points with the guys by being a bit self-deprecating, which everyone can sometimes enjoy. The person who can laugh at themselves is usually one of the most fun to be around, so don’t be afraid to be a little silly.

You can hopefully expect the same results as before, winning the group over, having everyone feeling very happy and full of life, so what comes next? You have talked to the woman you wanted to talk to, but is that enough, did you really do all this work to only have one brief conversation? Hardly, next we have to figure out how to close the deal.

Giving Her The Gift Of Missing You

Once you have successfully had a bit of flirting with the lovely lady, you need to be sure to excuse yourself for a little while. Find someone else to talk to go get a drink, or even a bite to eat. This will give her time to let her friends know what she thinks and about the interesting interaction she had with you and also allow you to be able to create the right situation for the last key; isolation.

In order to isolate her and have her all to yourself for a while, you first have to let her go mingle again and get sucked back into the crowd. It may seem this is counterproductive at best, but in reality this is the right move and will work to your advantage.

Are You Crazy?

I’m sure by now, if you didn’t already think it, you think I am a bit nuts and should be taken away in the white coat that makes a person hug themselves that I spoke of earlier, but no, in this case I am not actually crazy. Allowing the woman to go back into the fray will give her time to think about what just happened.

“I’ve got the woman all to myself and you want me to release her back to the pack of ravenous dogs?” is certainly the next thought going through your mind, but again the answer is yes. When she starts to think about how she enjoyed the flirting with you, and the way you set it up and spent so much time and energy on just being able to meet her she will be easier for you to get by herself to have your actual conversation.

In fact what is really going to happen is some of the ravenous dogs are going to try and hit on her and buy her drinks or other dumb obvious things, but none of them will have taken the time you took to make sure her attention and thoughts are on them. Why is that? Simply because instead of finding a great way to play a game with the woman, they only have one thing on their mind and no real plan; they are relying on their looks or charm but that won’t do it for them tonight.

Bide Your Time

What are you supposed to do once you have released this fox back to the hounds? You need to appear to still be enjoying the party.  Talk to some other people, another woman or two would not at all be a bad move here, grab a drink or a bite to eat. The reason to talk to other women is to have the woman you have your eye on realize once again that you are in control and desirable and she needs to come to you.

Try not to flirt with these other women, just have some nice conversation, if they are ladies you know already from work or are even relatives that works really well. Tell them a couple of your great stories, especially funny ones. By telling a couple funny stories to these other women, the woman you were flirting with will see you are the center of the group’s attention and making everyone laugh, she will want to know why they are all laughing and find out what story it is you told.