When you talk to a beautiful woman even if it is just a casual conversation, hearing her say that she has a boyfriend is as anti-climax as any guy can imagine. Just when you are having the most interesting and sensual conversation, a sudden flash of facts can really affect you game. While experienced seducers will intuitively know how to get around this, a newbie can let this revelation screw up his game totally.
While the honourable thing to do as a man is to stop advancing on women who are attached, there are many instances that hot women blurt this information out because it is their defence mechanism activating when they feel attraction for you. They feel something for you and being afraid that things are going too fast, the quickest way to slow it down is to say that they have boyfriends. If you are lucky to be in such a situation, here are some tips on how to manage this unwanted awkward situation and turn up on top.
Firstly, you have to understand what does it really mean when she says that she has a boyfriend. It is so easy to take her words literally. Because men tend to say things in a straight forward way without beating about the bushies, we also tend to take what women says literally word-for-word. The thing is, women very often say things with hidden meanings and agendas. One word out of women’s mouths can contain a thousand unsaid words.
One of the key characteristics of men who are successful with women and dating is that they understand women say what they think and do what they feel. If you are into body language stuff, notice her body language when she mentions about having a boyfriend. Does it convey the same meaning as her words. What you might want to look out for are eye contact, facial expressions, flirting with her hair, etc.
One sure sign to look out for is whether she is wearing an engagement or wedding ring. When married women want to show people that she is taken, they wear their rings. But many women wear rings just for the sake deflecting low quality men. When you make a move on these women who are single with rings on their fingers, you immediately show that you are a man with confidence. In these instances, just ask what the ring on their fingers mean.
If you have had your share of dating many women, you will intuitively know when a women is telling the truth or when they are full of BS. You might even come to a stage where you do not have to side step women’s availability and ask her directly if she is in a relationship. Women who knows what they want will find your boldness and directness attractive.
Another important point to take note is that love stories you see in the movies and on television are just made up stories. You are not going to see a hot women who is looking at you like a hungry couger, make instant connection and just end up in bed after the commercial break. Unless you have the good looks of Leonardo DiCaprio of course. The guy that you see in real life who has a hot girlfriend was usually rejected about a dozen times by her before finally landing his prize. So if you are to give up at any whiff of rejection, you are not really ready to date women who are more attractive than average.
The most straight forward way to react when women says they have boyfriends is to totally ignore it as if your mental hard drive has no space for spam messages. If you have to respond, say something corky like “I’m not your boyfriend yet” or “Right…”. Doing these does not hurt your chances at all. If she really is in a relationship, what you say does not matter. If she does not really have a boyfriend, she is going to find you intriguing. It’s a sure win situation for you. When women keeps throwing this “boyfriend” crap at you, and you keep responding like it is no issue, something magical happens. Many times you will find her starting to laugh. And that laugh comes from feeling attraction to you.
So remember this. When a woman says that she has a boyfriend during your first interactions, ignore her comment or continue ploughing through. There really is nothing to lose. Either you lose her, which you already technically have since she is attached. Or you win big time as she was just testing to see if you are a real man who can take rejection, get up and play the game.