You want this woman, so when you feel that she’s closing the window, you think the smart thing to do is to text her. Keep the connection there and keep the hope alive and surely that’ll change her mind is how many men think.
The truth about messaging with a woman that you want to sleep with is that there’s a right and a wrong way to do it. The right way will get you into her life and into her bed.
In fact, it can change her mind about you even if she blew you off in the past. If you text her the wrong way, you could possibly end up as joke material making the rounds between her and her friends.
And you end up with that opportunity gone forever if you make the same messaging mistakes that a lot of men make. Let’s take a look at some of the wrong ways that a man can message a woman.
There’s the caveman approach. These are messages that make her feel like she’s been hit by a truck or she’s being chased by a tiger. If you come across as too forceful or too powerful, she’s going to shut you down.
This means that you have to keep your testosterone at bay when you’re texting her. So power down and do the messaging the right way – the way that will get you the girl that you want.
Don’t take it to the other extreme or you’ll come across as the guy who needs serious help. These guys text in an anxious, needy kind of way that makes her think that she’s dealing with an immature, overgrown kid rather than a man.
While a woman will always want to help a needy man because of her nurturing nature, you can bet that help doesn’t mean into her bed. Texting a woman is the one place that you want to stand out from the crowd, but in a good way.
You don’t want your texts to be interchangeable with the next guy’s and the only differences are your names. If you send text messages that are just like every other guy’s messages are, these will translate into boring with her and they don’t end up leaving an impression at all.
But you also don’t want to message her like you’re auditioning for a comedy club routine either. Trying to be funny and her not getting your sense of humor won’t give you any points with her.
It will make her confused – or worse – make her feel stupid or think that you’re stupid. So don’t try to be a comedian. You can have a sense of humor, but you have to make sure that she gets it.
How do you know if you’re blowing it with your texting? She’s answering your messages, but you haven’t gotten one single step closer to getting her into bed. You’re trying to take the next step, you’re suggesting meetings or drinks or dinner and she’s always got a reason why it’s not going to happen.
You’re getting the text brush off but you just haven’t realized it yet. The number one way that guy’s go wrong when texting a woman is that put themselves in family member status.
Or friend zone. They send messages that ask how things are going for her, what was her day at the office like, blah, blah. Sounds real sexy, doesn’t it? The problem is that you’re thinking how you’re showing interest and some affection and concern for her well-being.
Meanwhile, she’s either lumping you with her friends or family and she’s thinking about other things. You want to use your messaging as a seduction tool and stream lined system.
Right Way to Message a Woman
If you’re thinking that it takes a volley of back and forth texts to get the woman that you want, you’re wrong. It takes three – and it really is that easy. But the kicker is you have to know what those three texts are.
You have to know how to send them and how to get her response. There’s a lot that you need to learn about women and this is one of the main things. They don’t want to read your little one-word responses or your short, cryptic text messages.
You communicate that way because you’re a guy and what’s wrong with keeping it simple? Nothing if you don’t want to get that hot girl to have sex with you, but because you do, you have to do the messaging the right way.
A guy’s normal response to a woman’s text is usually something like, “Okay” or “What?” or “Yeah, sure”. Lots of sexy stuff in that to make her hot for you. Not. You have to learn how to write things that make her burn for you.
And it all starts emotionally with her. You tap that and you really tap that. It only takes a few seconds to message her with, “I’ve been thinking about you” to open up a conversation that gets her ready to put out.
And it makes her think what a great, thoughtful guy that you are. It takes a little bit of learning to give a woman what she needs through messaging. But in the end, you get what you need so you’re the ultimate winner of the game. Want more great stuff on texting? Check out this great guide.