If your idea of a dress shirt has the words flannel or polo in the title, you need serious help. Also, if you think khakis are dress pants, and ok to wear with sneakers, seek a counselor now. I’m just kidding about the counselor, but you do need help. So let’s think, what did you wear to the last party, yeah the one where your palms were all sweaty and there was no way you could get up the nerve to talk to the woman having so much fun, what did you wear then?
If you weren’t wearing a dress shirt, one specifically designed to go with a suit, and slacks, along with a stylish belt, nice dress socks, and some polished shoes, you were completely wrong. Now it is high time to fix that problem. It doesn’t matter that you are a farmer and work the fields, or a builder on the roof or hanging drywall all day, what matters is when you go to a party how do you dress?
One thing any woman is going to notice when you are at an event or function is how everyone is dressed. It happens, they do it, and you can’t stop them, so why not be the one they notice in a positive way rather than a negative. Many women spend hours getting ready for a party, the preparation for them is extremely important and they notice how every man and woman is looking at the party, it’s just in their nature to do so.
Knowing this up front, you need to make sure you are dressed to impress. This is one area where you will need to spend a bit of time and money to make sure you have it right. You will need to go to the nearest suit store and start looking at what they have to offer and pay attention to how other men dress on TV and in recent movies, which is the look you really want and can have.
When you go to the suit store, be sure to get the whole ensemble, jacket, shirts, ties, belts, pants, socks and shoes. It’s even a great idea to accessorize a bit with cufflinks, a tie clip, and collar stays. If you are on a budget, and can only afford one suit jacket, that’s ok, just make sure you have a few shirts and pants that will complement the jacket.
One good dark colored jacket can go a long way with so many different shirts and pant combinations it will seem like you have a closet full of suits. I also recommend a lightweight material as parties can sometimes get very warm with all of the people in a closed in area. If you do have the money, buy a nice overcoat as well that compliments your suit for the colder and wetter months, no reason to miss a party just because of weather.
Once you have your suit, you are well groomed and on your way to your old fighting weight, the next item on the list will be some type of status symbol. There is no reason for you to go around with a giant clock on your chest like Flavor Flav, but you do need something that symbolizes success.
What should you get? One suggestion would be a very nice ring. A ring that is somewhat modest, but compliments your suit and still stands out will be a perfect choice. I know that is asking a lot from a ring to say all that, but you can find one.
If you take a look in your nearby jeweler’s shop, you will be able to find what you need, but be sure not to go overboard. If you come out of the shop with a ring that is so heavy you need a fork truck to help carry it, you have made a bad choice. A simple but elegant ring is the best way to go.
A couple things to consider when picking out the ring make sure you know what style and type of metal is trending right now. Some years platinum is the choice metal, others it yellow gold, and still other times it white gold, just be sure you like it and will wear it comfortably. The stone needs to be something nice and not too flashy, a black onyx, ruby, or sapphire will do just fine and be cheaper than diamonds.
What if you don’t want a ring, don’t think it’s practical, and simply have no interest in having a “man ring” for yourself? In that case it’s best to pick out a nice watch. Nice really is the operative word here, you will not need to get a Rolex, but you will also need to avoid the cheapies like Timex or Seiko.
Find a nice watch, again, like the ring, it doesn’t have to be so flashy to say to the world “I make so much money, you could feed a small nation from the money I spent on my watch” but it should be nice enough and sensible enough to let a woman know you are man of taste, class and practicality.
This is another area to check on what is trending at the time and pick something out that will make sense for you. If you have a watch you wear for everyday work, buy one that is simply for going out. Save it for parties and events where you wear your suit. You will spend some money to get such a watch, but it will be worth it as a good watch will last a very long time, so make sure you really like it as well.
The last item on the agenda as far as wardrobe is another accessory, but must more fun, find something crazy or a bit out of the ordinary. This can be done a day or two before the event, and you don’t need to spend a bunch of money for it, because the entire purpose of this item is to start a conversation. The idea here is to have something she can’t ignore and has to comment on, along with many other people at the party.
This unusual or crazy item can be as simple as wearing sunglasses to an event that takes place at night, or maybe a goofy hat such as a cowboy hat or pirate hat to draw attention. Either way, make sure you understand the idea is simply to get a conversation going, and you are being a bit self-deprecating on purpose to liven the mood, so go with it.
I would not suggest going so over the top as to have a squirting flower or fake vomit as your prop item, both of these involve other people being part of the joke and really the point is for you to be the punch line, not other people. Stick to something simple and classy and you should be ok with your crazy item.