How Staring With Your Eyes Can Make Or Break Your Game

When a person shows and interest in you what do they do? Do they sit and stare at you and make you uncomfortable wondering if you have something stuck in your teeth or on your clothes? In fact staring is obviously one way to show interest in another person, but really it’s one of the worst ways you could.

If you sit too long anywhere and stare at someone, sooner or later you might have to have conversation with the boys in blue as to why you seem to be stalking someone. That doesn’t make for a very nice first impression at all.  It would be much better for you to learn the best ways to show interest in a person, and there are quite a few.

Our lovely friends, the “dating doctors” once again might tell you to look at the woman you are interested in and eventually she is going to look back. This much might be true, but what sort of vibe are you putting off by doing this and what sort of feeling are you creating in her?

Try an experiment, go to a café and just stare at people until they leave. If they notice you are staring you probably will see them squirm, look uncomfortable, and even inspect themselves to try and figure out what you are staring at. There is also a chance some people might confront you, or ask the café manager to do so. All of these reactions are unpleasant and not way we are aiming for when we want to spend time and attract a woman.

We are going to cover five ways to show a woman you are interested in them during this next section of the booklet, and hopefully help you see what is appropriate and what is not. These five different ways of expressing interest are: hide, tease, show, touch and look. Each one has its own merits and value and will be useful to you going forward.

Do you see that lovely looking woman over by the food court, well, stop staring at her and start reading how best to show your interest before she has you removed from the shopping center.

Peek A Boo

I know, this is a game we play with infants hiding behind our hands and then showing them our face and saying playfully “peek a boo” expecting them to giggle with delight. It might be a bit juvenile for a men’s advice and dating booklet, but bring the point across. The first part of showing a woman you are interested in her is to hide.

Even as I wrote that line I said to myself, “that sounds stupid” so I’m not surprised if you feel the same way, but give it a chance and let me show you what I’m talking about. What we are discussing during this section is hiding the fact that you are interested in her. What you really are trying to do is get her to be interested in you and there are a few ways to accomplish this.

Of course what you need to understand first of all is getting control of your body language. If you are so off the charts by waving your hands around and can’t keep a straight face, that will be where you need to work first, not try simply hiding your interest. However, if you have pretty good control of your body, facial expressions, and especially those crazy hands of yours, keep on reading and see what is in store for you.

You are going to need a full length mirror and to perform some practice on your own in order to perfect the body language you need in order to send off the right message with your body. Remember, we actually communicate more with our face and body than we do with the words we speak so this will be key to send the right message.

You will want to practice standing with your body facing away from another person. In this case you don’t need to employ the help of your friends or relatives, but just pretend another person is there and stand so that you never actually face them directly at all. You should also pretend to have a conversation with someone else and only address the person you are trying to not face directly when they are speaking.

When you go to the club, or a party, this is exactly what you are going to do, when you are in a group with a woman you feel attracted to. Make sure you never directly face her at all, the more of your back she sees the better. When she does speak, you can respond and turn a little toward her, but turn back away fairly quickly.
The message you are trying to give off by having your body away from her is that you are not interested in her, or she is not your type. In fact, if she confronts you about why you aren’t facing her, go ahead and tell her directly she isn’t your type. This might just get her interest level in you raised up very quickly, especially if she is a really stunning woman.

Once you have successfully given off the message that she isn’t your type, you are also telling her, with your body language that you can do better than her. Nothing makes a woman gain interest faster than thinking there is another woman who can gain a man’s attention better than she can. She will very likely start to show an interest in you instead of you having to pursue her as much and in doing so you will have turned the table on her to where she is actually chasing you.

If you now have this stunningly beautiful woman now chasing you and wanting to talk to you what is your best course of action at this point? Do you hide some more, do you leave the party altogether, or do you actually allow her to catch you? This is the easiest one of all, you let her catch you.

Once you let her catch you and start a conversation, you can employ the methods from the earlier sections to take her somewhere private and have a nice long meaningful “get to know you” conversation that hopefully will end in a kiss.

A Moment Will Arrive Where You Have To Reveal Your True Self

I do not mean for your to take off your clothes, run around in your birthday suit and let the world see how well equipped you are. I’m pretty certain if you did this the men with the wonderful white jackets that make you hug yourself would show up, and then this booklet is useless to you anyway.

No, in fact what I do mean by revealing yourself is our next section of showing interest and that is to show. Now, instead of just teasing and flirting, or trying to hide and ignore her, you are actually going to give this woman some much deserved attention.

What you are going to do when showing her some attention is to give her a compliment, on what she said, laugh at her jokes, or simply state a positive opinion on her end of the conversation. What you do when you give her these compliments is show her that you aren’t such a bad guy after all.

Once again, our “dating doctors” won’t even touch this subject at all. The reason for that is they don’t think you should ever tease or flirt with a woman. Apparently women are to be on a pedestal and adored, not treated like people. Who wants that? Not one single woman I have ever known said they would like this kind of treatment all the time, so don’t do it.

Instead, after you have given few good teases give her a compliment or two. Say things like “that’s a great point, you might be worth my time after all” or “that was really funny, I guess you aren’t that bad”. By setting her up with these compliments, she will start to seek your approval, or at the very least be interested in your response to her comments and stories.

As long as you mix it up really well, many women will enjoy a conversation where they get teased and complimented, and are able to give both back. There is nothing wrong with, and it actually can be a bit refreshing for a woman to be able to act a bit less like a lady for a while, let her hair down, and have some fun back and forth conversation.

If you can get into this situation, how do you think the both of you are going to react? In your case, we already know you are attracted to her, but now she is obviously interested in you and your opinion of what she has to say, so bravo to you, you have found a way to win over her attention by treating her like an equal, and not like a porcelain doll that needs to be set on the shelf.

Take Note

The advice in the last three sections really does need to go hand in hand. I would suggest to anyone who employs this advice to practice with friends and family before going out to a club or party. The likelihood of you coming home and needing to ice something down is much greater if you haven’t practiced first.

I also know the steps and ideas seem a bit risky, but when was anything in life that was worth going after not at least a bit of a risk. In order to have some actual success when going to parties and to the clubs you have to be willing to be vulnerable, clever, and not mind a little rejection.

At the end of the day, the most important part of the advice I can give you regarding the hide, tease, show technique is to remember to read the body language and ensure what you are doing actually feels right. You don’t want to throw a tease at a woman who just told her story to you about a close relative dying, that wouldn’t be appropriate at all.

By that same token, you would not want to be so brutal with hiding from her that she loses complete interest in you because maybe now she thinks you are a jerk, it is a fine line that you must walk in order to be successful with this technique. Because I know this is a fine line, and isn’t 100% successful I suggest the practice sessions with friends and family. If you have a good looking woman friend or relative to help you practice, that’s even better for you to ensure you will be prepared to use this technique successfully.

Just remember, have fun; allow the woman to show you some attention and flirt with you as much as you do with her, and read the body language she gives off to make sure what you are doing is appropriate for the situation you are in. Even if you aren’t successful, maybe you will at least avoid the frozen vegetable on the old twig and berries at the end of the night.

Getting Some Time Alone With Her And Moving From Place To Place

As a word of warning you should not be taking action in this section of the booklet unless you were successful in physical escalation. However, if you in fact were successful, bravo to you and welcome to the final section of the showing interest part, it has been a long journey so far.

This final section will hopefully not start to sound like a harlequin romance novel, or some cheesy movie where you spend half the movie watching two people holding hands and talking with no real movement, but in a way that is what should take place between you two at this point.

So far you have gotten this woman to allow you to hold her hand, and had some nice conversation with light teasing; it’s time for you to take this to the next level. If you haven’t already taken her somewhere private or at least quieter than where you were now is the time to do so.

If you are at a party, choose a nearby room, or a table away from the crowd. The idea is that you aren’t actually leaving the party, and you are keeping her in view of the rest of the party guests, which will give her a sense of security. Also, when sitting and talking, make sure she is closest to the exit, allowing her to leave the easiest if she decides that is what she wants to do.

Of course, if you are planning to kidnap this woman and tie her up in the back of your vans then put this booklet down and seek some help, that isn’t funny or kind at all. But if you only have the best of intentions then let me tell you why you need to situate yourself away from the exit. In reality this is a basic security you are allowing this lovely lady.

Her security and safety are of utmost important to her, as it is to all women, and she needs to know you are aware of this and take it seriously. Showing her this by having her seated closer to the exit, or making sure the two of you are still in view or possibly earshot of the other party guests is one way to accomplish this.

In another scenario, if you have met at a club, the best thing to do to get somewhat alone is to go to a restaurant for a sandwich or pizza, or offer to walk her home if she is ready to go home. By doing this you are taking her away from the crowd of strangers, but also out in public view so she can maintain her sense of security.

Once you have the location figured out and the two of you are together, holding hands looking into each other’s eyes and talking about life, and interests, what do you do? Many people who read that last sentence would simply say “kiss her you fool” but it’s still too early for that. What you need to do is make a triangle like you did as a kid in school, but with your eyes, not drawing it on paper.

How you make this triangle is by looking from one eye to the next and then down to her lips, and repeat. Keep changing which eye or her lips you are looking at while still talking and listening to her together. All during this time you should still be holding hands, either on the table together looking deep into one another’s eyes, or sitting side by side but facing each other.

Can you feel the passion mounting yet, have you started thinking now is the time for the kiss, it’s getting closer let me tell you. Keep working your eyes around hers and back to her lips performing your triangle. Please do this slowly, you don’t need to make yourself dizzy, or her by having your eye darting around like someone who just robbed a bank.

Remember the steps to getting a kiss from the last section was to ask her, not just go in for the kill. Our wonderful “experts” would tell you when you feel it go in and take the plunge and get that kiss, but if you remember I told you not to do this. Simply ask her if she would like to kiss you, or ask if you can kiss her.

I would really be shocked if this woman, who has allowed you to hold her hand for a long time, and look into her eyes while having such a nice conversation where the two of you are getting to know each other, is going to turn you down at this point in the night. Besides, the looking into her eyes and around to her lips has increased the sexual tension to a point that is simply unbearable so don’t be surprised if your kiss becomes something more like making out.

Please keep in mind to allow the woman the control of the kiss. It should be up to her how long, and how strong this kiss is, unless of course she starts to choke you with her tongue, then you might want to stop for a minute to catch your breath. Otherwise let her be in charge, this lets her know you think of her as worthy of your time and as an equal.

A Fine Line Between Playful Teasing And Being A Jerk

With our next section, teasing, upon us how do we actually tease this lovely woman without being so rude as to turn her off? There is a fine line between playfully teasing a woman and coming off as a complete rude asshole, so make sure you are able to read the signs and come off on the right side of things. Here are some suggestions that should help you along the way.

First of all, in order to even get to the teasing, also known as flirting, part of any conversation or situation with a woman you have to have had some conversation and show an ability to read her body language. Also, if this is the first night you have ever met this woman, keep your teasing to very light hearted subjects, remember if you go overboard you are going to come off as a pompous jackass and that is not fun at all.

Our friends, oh the “dating experts” are so loving me throughout this booklet aren’t they?  Actually just the opposite, but I simply don’t care what they think. They will tell you, as I stated in the previous section, you shouldn’t tease a woman you are pursuing. Instead you need to put her on a pedestal and worship her. If you are doing anything short of adorning her with gifts and showering her with your attention you are wrong. Well, they are wrong, by doing that you only become yesterday’s news to this woman and she will find someone who actually presents her with a challenge.

The reality of this situation is the flirting and teasing is a wonderful way to show interest in a woman. It also gives her the chance to challenge you back with her own variety of flirting and teasing that lets you know she is interested as well. I know, it’s a bit if a complicated game we play with the playful banter and back and forth remarks, but in the end it can be well worth it, and lots of fun as well.

What qualifies as proper flirting and what doesn’t?  The ideal tease or flirt will show a woman you are somewhat interested, but also let her know you think you can do better at the same time. It also won’t be so degrading as to have her running off in tears and you being thrown out of the place; we certainly wouldn’t want that.

Once again, if you have just met this woman for the first time using teases that are personal really should be off limits. Even if she teases you on a personal level, don’t turn it on her, not everyone can handle having their own words or actions turned on them, and we are trying to attract her, not repel her. Using something as simple as “You like that restaurant? I thought the food there was dreadful; there is no way I would go there again. I can’t believe you like it” or “You enjoyed that movie? I thought it was awful and boring. That’s a deal breaker, I guess we can’t go out at all.”

Hopefully you get the idea with the teasing now. You are giving off the message that she isn’t good enough for you in a playful way, without getting personal. Unless she is the owner of the restaurant, or participated in the movies personally, she really won’t be too offended by the comments suggested above, and it gives her a chance to come back at you with a couple of her own insults.

Get Her As Your Girlfriend Even When She Has A Boyfriend Now

To make her your girlfriend even when when she currently has a boyfriend, you have to be patient. You are not going to speed up the process by pressuring her to break up with her boyfriend. In fact, doing so can be detrimental to you efforts.

Even if she has decided to leave her boyfriend, it can take anywhere between 1 week to 4 weeks to finally truly end things with him. So remember to step back and just let her do her thing. There can be many reasons why this can take some time.

  • They are living together. She needs time to find another place and move out
  • Emotional blackmail. The boyfriend could be using their past happiness to blackmail her
  • She needs time to get over the fact that things are over. This is just a phase
  • She need to get support from her friends
  • She wants some time to see whether you are going to stay around

Continue to be the guy she fell in love in the first place when she had a boyfriend. Play to your strengths and note down the qualities that she like about you. Casually display these qualities consistently whenever the 2 of you meet up.

Remember that these qualities are what you are. If you are just faking it, you might want to reconsider your life purposes and objectives and what you really want out of this relationship. Do not at this point start trash talking her boyfriend. It just shows that you are not confident with yourself. It might even trigger her to defend her boyfriend. A bad reflection of her boyfriend is also a bad reflection of herself.

Usually women will defend their boyfriends no matter if they are breaking up or not. It doesn’t matter whether he beats her up or leaves her alone on weekends while watching football in a pub with his friends. The fact that they are together in the first place means that she saw something in him that she initially found attractive. Women will revisit the past happiness when you put them in doubt of their relationships. This is especially so if you start trashing him.

Trust me. If you get to this stage where she has decided to leave him to be with you. Your job is done. You have taken this as far as it can go. Your best move is to be patient and wait.

There are however, things that you could do wrongly at this stage that might just change her mind about leaving her boyfriend. You have to continue dating her like you have always done. Cooling off your relationship and passion with her is a legitimate cause for reconsideration on her end. Doing so and you will be displaying traits that you are not really worthy enough for her to end a legitimate relationship for. Also do not use third parties like her friends to pressure her to take quick action. Let’s face it. If she is someone who will end the relationship slowly, she will do so at her own pace. Haggling her directly or indirectly to speed things up will not do anybody any good at all. Do not get friends involved.